Putting It All Out There...

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2010
Putting It All Out There...
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Fri, 03-12-2010 - 8:41am

Ok, so I have decided to come clean with myself and with all you amazing people on this board.

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Fri, 03-12-2010 - 9:05am

I know you are in pain. It hurts really bad to realize why we even got involved with a MM in the first place is because of issues within ourselves. It wasn't that he was so fantastic because fantastic ppl don't lie, cheat and break commitments to ppl they have promised to love and cherish. You are still foggy but you have to force yourself to never break contact again. You are causing your own pain by expected a man who is M to be faithful to you. When the fog has cleared you will realize that you should never have expected him to be faithful to you when he can't even hold his promise to his W. It really isn't logical thinking. No matter how much you tell him he hurt

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2010
Fri, 03-12-2010 - 10:35am

Thank you Why ;)


Yes, you are right, I am still in the "Fog"..it is still very fresh. What you said was a reality to me, so thank you. I can't expect a MM to be faithful to me..hard pill to swallow, but I need to.


I will not make contact with him again, that is a promise to myself because it is a waste of my time and myself.


Yes, I am single..but I will tell you this, that if someday I do meet a man, the only way I will even interact with him will be through a friend..no

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Fri, 03-12-2010 - 11:53am

Hi Running,


Do you jog? Just curious if your screen name is exercise related? Hopefully you are not running from the past because that causes you to move towards something else erratically.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2010
Fri, 03-12-2010 - 2:31pm

<I had to realize the OW or women have eyes, ears, a computer just like I do. If they want to see the truth, they will. If they don’t, they won’t. It is their choice and they own the consequences of their actions. It is not my job to warn anyone. It is my job to be true to myself and be the best wife and mother that I can be. I also had to realize that forgiving a person that hurt me does not mean that I’m saying what they did was ok that’s not what it is about. The forgiveness is to allow me to be released from a situation that was binding me so that I can let go and move forward.>


Wow..thank you E1, that gave me alot to think about! So true what you said, so true....


I agree with revenge, I knew after I did it, that it did not make me feel any better, only worse..so much worse.


I will work on forgiveness, I don't think I will get there today for XAP or myself, but I will get there.


Thank you so much,


RG - and yes I am a runner :)


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-04-2010
Fri, 03-12-2010 - 10:36pm
Private message me. We have a lot in common. My AP was single but I am going through exactly what you are. Maybe we can encourage each other :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2010
Sat, 03-13-2010 - 7:46am

It won't let me send you an email?