Being Afraid to Feel Angry

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Being Afraid to Feel Angry
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Sat, 03-13-2010 - 1:21pm

I've expressed before that I've avoided anger. And then, once I finally felt it, I didn't like feeling it. Today, I found this blog discussing anger, and it really helped me. Maybe it will help someone else here too.

http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-afraid-to-feel-angry-in-relationships-or-post-breakup/

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 01-28-2010
Sun, 03-14-2010 - 4:37pm

Jane, I had attempted to thank you for posting this, but it doesn't appear the post went through! In any case, I really appreciate this article. These two points hit home especially:

"You may find yourself wallowing in your own pain and stagnating in the anger. This can mean analysing, obsessing about what happened, and bringing your life to a halt as you have angry conversations with yourself, and wallow in shame and misery.

You may also find that you backtrack. You get the anger out and the panic about ‘losing’ them, so you invalidate your own reasons to be angry and apologise to them, even though you may have a very legitimate reason to be p*ssed off."

Oh dear. But how good it is to get the validation that I'm not losing it :)

((hugs))