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| Mon, 03-15-2010 - 10:20pm |
In January I came back to say that I decided I was mad enough to end my A of fifteen years.
| Mon, 03-15-2010 - 10:20pm |
In January I came back to say that I decided I was mad enough to end my A of fifteen years.
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Hi buddy,
Big hugs to you. Your xAP certainly is a piece of work. I think he liked seeing you squirm. I also think he liked putting himself in your line of sight. He might have wanted to end things but I think maybe he enjoyed the tease and got some kind of sick pleasure out of it.
Do you have a plan of action to avoid him? If he just shows up, then leave or go to another part of your house, take the kids somewhere, have a headache (!!), anything to avoid being around him.
thank you bandk.
Hello Buddy,
First things first....stop beating yourself up, and start being kind to YOU! You come first now, and xap isn't even on the list!
Keep coming back HERE and not THERE....keep reading as there is so much to learn regardless of what stage of recovery you're in. We've all ruminated so much, we could write a book, so give yourself maybe 10 minutes a day to do just that, and then stop yourself and do something that is productive and meaningful to you. Xap is not in the equation!
Many hugs to you and no, you don't need a slap...
Believe in yourself so everyone will too!
Mish
buddy, I'm thinking the same thing as why ask why, 15 years, wow. And during that time, this JAM only told you he loved you 3 times? And then he tried to take it back. (am I getting that right?) I'm sure you are asking yourself what was I to him. And of course, why you allowed yourself to be in that situation for so long. What did he offer you buddy? Other than affair addiction, do you know why you stayed so long? I'm curious because it seems so perplexing.
Dear Bandk,
his wife and i share other friends who will tell her where i am even if i don't.
you wrote..."I hope this helps someone to not keep going back when your gut tells you it is over.
~ life....
http://nomoreblues.wordpress.com/
Oh just leave me just get out of my head
'Cause I can't ta
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