Give me strength....

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Give me strength....
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 1:52pm

I got up this morning, logged on to FB like I do every day and guess who had unfriended me?

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 2:02pm

ok, jaycee, stay here, ask for support and read everything!


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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 4:02pm

Jaycee, how many official goodbyes, IMs, FB messages, emails, texts, are you going to go through before you actually adopt the NO CONTACT concept? You decided to end it yesterday, told him so, asked him not to contact you and then you removed

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 4:59pm

Oh, it's done.

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Registered: 10-01-2009
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 5:08pm
Ajay (((hugs))) and support to you.
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 5:59pm

The strength you seek lies within YOU. We can offer hugs and support, but we cannot monitor you 24/7. Now that you talked to him AGAIN, it is entirely up to you to make this ending work. There is nothing left to be said, so no more unfriending, friending, fishing, or whatever, if you want to truly start feeling strong.


Time and distance. Give it a chance to work.


((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 10-21-2009
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 6:25pm

>>The only reason I wanted to talk to him today was because I couldn't in my heart, just end it going full blown NC without a reason. I woud be devestated if he did that to me.
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He did go NC on you without an explanation. He had a quickie with you and then you haven't heard from him for days and he unfriended you on FB. He went NC already! This is it, and you have to respect it and stay away from him.
Don't confess to your husband. No matter what everybody says, I am firm beleiver that you can't upload all that on your unsuspecting partner. You take your betrayal to your grave and suffer in silence - you made your bed, you sleep in it.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 08-06-2007
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 8:31pm
jaycee, I think you should give yourself some time and space before you confess to anyone. I know you feel you must do this, but my advice would be to give this a few months. I can tell you in time you will feel differently about the affair and your involvement. You have to weigh all the consequences of confessing. What about all the other innocents in your life? How will a confession affect them and the life they know now?