Where are these tears coming from?
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Where are these tears coming from?
| Thu, 03-18-2010 - 9:44am |
Here I am, trying to be strong for the brand new newbies who come here with such raw emotions.
| Thu, 03-18-2010 - 9:44am |
Here I am, trying to be strong for the brand new newbies who come here with such raw emotions.
Oh hun--give yourself permission to feel sad...it's perfectly ok to feel sad--you encountered a REALLY tough situation and you handled yourself so well. Be proud of that. You simply just left and took care of yourself.
I'm 3 months out and have many times of tears still and I don't have to work with *him*. I give you much credit and love.
Be gentle with yourself--you are still healing and no matter what stage you are at--it still hurts. Enjoy your coffee and say some affirmations that you MATTER the most.
Hugs and love,
LL
I'm so sorry CSN you had to be in that situation and you are feeling so sad.
CSN,
Hugs...its ok to cry. I think its healthy for you. Congrats on handling the LC so well. Even though youre almost a tweener that doesnt mean that all the emotions suddenly go away.It means youre getting better at handling them and knowing how to handle it when it does happen...you did awsome! You know its a process and we all have days/moments where we need to have the release.
Its hard but you should be really proud of yourself. You felt it coming on and you removed yourself from the situation and replaced it with a feel good...a latte.
I wish I had some sound advice for you, I only have my support to offer.
Hang in there...this morning was just a speed bump.
DM
You WILL be okay. Good for you for walking away. I had to quit my job with xap in order to heal properly. I know most don't have that option and kudos to you for remaining LC. I could not have handled that, so give yourself credit for being strong!
One thing that I do when I'm feeling weak is call my husband just to talk about our day, what we'll have for dinner, anything to get my mind off xap. If he's not available I call anybody I can think of. The worst thing we can do is to dwell because then the "what ifs" start creeping back into our minds.
Stay strong and know that we are all pulling for you.
Lots of love and hugs,
actingasif
I too call my husband, kids, friends, or anyone that will listen...lol...in place of times when I would call xap (at lunch, or on my drive home).
Thanks to all of you for your support.
Oh CSN, I am so sorry I am late chiming in here. This week has been brutal between having the flu and trying to meet deadline at work.
I am so sorry you were put in that situation this morning. I have managed to avoid direct face-to-face contact with xap since I ended it, but I know it is coming and I just hope I handle it as well as you did. It sounds like you did amazing. You did what you had to do and then you excused yourself. That is perfectly fine. And it's perfectly fine to cry- even though we all hate doing it - I've learned to embrace it because my T told me that suppressing the tears only makes them come out later and with more vengeance :)
I know you are feeling better now, and that is so awesome. Just remember, these moments will come... you know that, and you just gotta feel it. Let the tears flow. Feel the emotions. As long as you don't act on those emotions and break NC/LC, you are perfectly fine. It's all part of the healing... And then it passes and you are still there, stronger than before, with more resolve and pride than before. Because guess what? You are you and you are wonderful and amazing and strong and dignified. You rock!
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Thank you, my hero Jane!
NC since January 28, 2010
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NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/