Respect for those that work with xAP

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Registered: 10-04-2009
Respect for those that work with xAP
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 4:28pm

Ladies -


I just had to express my newfound respect and utter admiration for those of you who work with, or have to frequently see your xAP.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 4:42pm

Thank you for this ...

it is so hard - heart-breaking every moment. I just left a meeting where my xAP and I had to sit next to one another. I left just before it ended so that we wouldn't connect - he followed me out - and so I was forced to turn to him and say I gotta go. I am day 18 LC and I can't stop crying right now.

This hurts so bad.

Jodi

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 4:48pm

That is really nice of you to say.


It is extremely hard and I can't take it much longer which is why I'm leaving here in a few weeks. It is impossible to move on (for me anyway) and in order to move on I must leave this place.


Thanks again for thinking of us who work with AP.


Hugs to all -

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 5:50pm
Thank You, Some days are easier than others. We are trying to remain on a friendly basis. Hurts like hell. Today I had a meeting w/ just him and I. Try to keep it up beat but not personal. When he left, I cried, but it passed. Life goes on I guess, I don't want him, but I still cannot get him out of my heart. suc*s. But I no I never want to be with him ever again.
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Registered: 01-28-2010
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 7:02pm
I work with my xAP. We sit across from each other. This is without a doubt one of the worst and hardest things I've ever gone through. I'm at a crossroads where there is absolutely no turning back, but I simply can't move forward. I know it'll get better when one of us leaves our office...supposedly he is leaving soon...but then I'll just have to deal with the depression of never seeing him again. I am sad beyond description, and so regret ever getting myself into this situation. Like one of the previous posters said, it is heartbreaking every second of the work day, and then, ridiculously, it's just as bad once I'm home and can't see him or hear his voice.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2009
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 7:22pm

It is terrible situation. Luckily for me, we don't sit next to each other and I do everything I can not to run into him (changed my lunch break times - because he used to wait for me in the cafeteria, using different entrance to the bulding because he knows what time I'm coming to work and would wait for me in a hallway - you really have to be creative to protect yourself. But every little thing, even seeing him from the distance or seeing his name on a paperwork just brings the same pain, it is just unbearable at times.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 12-11-2009
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 7:22pm
I too am so amazed with you women that can continue to see xap at work. I lasted about 3 months working with xap. Every time he walked out the door and didn't say goodbye I was crushed. I lived on xanax to get me through during that time. And inevitably we would end up together after breaking it off because the feelings were so strong for us both. I finally made the decision to leave my job or I was never going to get through it. I was able to get off the xanax and begin the healing process. I still have to drive by my old job to get my new one and just the sight of his car makes me sad. I now force myself to look in the other direction. And I just want to say, I have been in my new job for more than a year now and it was the best move I've ever made, spiritually and financially. Change doesn't always have to be a bad thing. I'm so sorry for those of you that don't have that choice. Just keep holding your head high and keep those xap blinders on at all times.
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Registered: 01-28-2010
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 8:02pm
Very encouraging words, Acting...it's good to hear from someone who said "screw this mess!" and picked up and started anew in a fresh, xAP-free work environment! Sometimes I think that's what it will take for me, because even if he does leave like he says he is going to, everything will still remind me of him--every hallway, parking space, nook and cranny, and he will continue to haunt me. That's what he does...he haunts me. Never dip your pen in the company ink, GRRRRRR!
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2009
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 1:01pm

Gal, thank you so much for this!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2009
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 1:40pm
Thank you for your encouraging words.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 5:06pm

Gullable,


Your post put a smile on my face. Que cards, eh? Yep, sometimes it's exactly like rehearsing for the biggest role of our lives, you know? It

   ~Iddy~ 


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