Songs & a moment of weakness....

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Songs & a moment of weakness....
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 10:37pm

I'm surprised that there are quite a few songs intended for the other woman... I want to share a couple I haven't heard but that hit home.

"She gets what I deserve" by SheDaisy

Then, "Soon" by Tanya Tucker:
This song portrays the beginning, TOW has a summer fling with a taken man, and it goes too far. All he does is tell her that he’ll be with her soon, leave his other girl soon, but eventually it gets to this:
He’ll say soon to her forever
So she makes her new years resolution
Soon she won’t call him anymore
Soon, when he shows up at her door and
Asks her when can I be with you again
It’ll be her turn to say
Soon.
She wants to break free from him, and she will, soon. Tanya really gives this song the emotional thrust it needs, and it never gets bombastic like it could. It’s a little resigned and regretful, as it should be.

Anyway, I'm having a weak moment... no I did not break no contact. and no, I do not miss xAP. I feel just so sorry for myself... I know I shouldn't... I'm in this deep depression. I feel so lonely. I keep hearing people say, 'oh you're so beautiful'...blah blah blah but then why am I so lonely and alone? Why is it that I meet men that I'm interested in but then it turns out they're interested only in one thing (sex)? Or I have men interested in me but I'm not interested in them. argh..its so frustrating.

K I'll get off my pity bus... other than that I'm doing great. lol

Hope everyone else is good! Trust me... although I am complaining about being lonely... it is 10x BETTER then it ever was with xAP. At least being lonely does not cause me anxiety. Anxiety over not seeing him, jealousy of him being home, not having him etc... what a total waste of time it was being with him. Being his FOOL. Now I see how good he had it...he barely had to work at keeping me. Pretty pathetic. I'm glad its over and I'm no longer his fool. He can have his wife be his fool now.

NC since Dec. 9th 2009


No Contact = No New Hurts


Silence is Golden; Silence is Dignified; Silence speaks volumes.

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N

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Registered: 03-17-2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 2:26am

Hi lost (but now on the right track

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Registered: 08-27-2008
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 8:16am

Hi Ilost,

Yep, I know the songs youre talking about... you should try listening to some of the Reba tunes, like "it just has to be this way".

I like how you can identify the difference between a weak moment within yourself vs a weak moment for xap...thats awsome progress.

This struck a cord with me because it is SOOO true. Being his fool meant so many different things and its a relief not playing that role anymore.

Have a good day Lost.

DM

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 10:21am

Lost,
I had to avoid the radio and even my own ipod for a few months after the End. Music was just too much of a trigger for me, even the I Will Survive songs. I found that I would wallow too much in the 'ending' or in the A. Sometimes, it's bittersweet and a little satisfying to pick at that wound - like scratching a mosquito bit, ykwim? But, for me, it was unhealthy. I am just mentioning this so that you will be aware in case you're doing the same.

All my best,
Dee

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 7:19pm

Thanks gals! :)


Dee,


Yea songs do remind us where we're at... I try to avoid these types of songs too but I like how the artist can identify with the other woman.

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N