Don't beat yourself up over breaking NC. For some of us (me included) NC is not even possible because we work together and forced to go LC (which is a unique type of torture). It does get better nevertheless and even in LC healing and moving on is possible - just takes longer and setbacks are painful.
gonebabygone I also work with my xap. He is my boss. So contact everyday. I am different now, I could care less most times if I see or talk to him. He text me this morning saying goodmorning, at on time I would have called him just to hear his voice. Not now, I text back ditto. nothing more. Did not have to talk to him for the rest of the day. YAHOO!! I am not going to lie sometimes very hard to deal with, Now he just irratiates me when I talk to him. Never thought I would feel this way. Man feels good.
beautiful Don't beat yourself up. Just go with your plan to start over, and stick to it. It works once you allow yourself to stop thinking about him. You are lucky you can go NC. Appriciate that!!! I hope you have done what others on the board do BLOCK HIM from phone, text, e-mail. Focus on your trip. Make it special for you and H. Good luck to you loveless
Doesn't it though? I am so happy that you have gotten to this point. You don't know when it will happen but suddenly, "Whala!" They have become an irritation and down right annoying. You just want them to take a permanent hike and leave you alone. Welcome to the state of indifference.
I like your willingness to not give up and continue to work at LC/NC. It does not matter where you are in the process as long as you are willing to stay true to your desire to end the A! Good to see you back posting. I enjoy reading your posts.
So I’m going to wish you luck not just on 90 days but beyond and encourage your continued and renewed investment in yourself and your healing.
Big hugs,
E1
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Thankyou Iddy, NEVER thought I would ever feel this way about him. And you know what I think he feels the same. Some days are harder than others. But in my own time I have taken off the rose colored glasses. And I owe it to the wonderful people on this board. All the great inspiration that ladies pass on here is remarkable. I know I am well on my way..... Thankyou all :)
Don't beat yourself up over breaking NC. For some of us (me included) NC is not even possible because we work together and forced to go LC (which is a unique type of torture). It does get better nevertheless and even in LC healing and moving on is possible - just takes longer and setbacks are painful.
XOXO
Gone
I also work with my xap. He is my boss. So contact everyday. I am different now, I could care less most times if I see or talk to him. He text me this morning saying goodmorning, at on time I would have called him just to hear his voice. Not now, I text back ditto. nothing more. Did not have to talk to him for the rest of the day. YAHOO!! I am not going to lie sometimes very hard to deal with, Now he just irratiates me when I talk to him. Never thought I would feel this way. Man feels good.
Don't beat yourself up. Just go with your plan to start over, and stick to it. It works once you allow yourself to stop thinking about him. You are lucky you can go NC. Appriciate that!!!
I hope you have done what others on the board do BLOCK HIM from phone, text, e-mail. Focus on your trip. Make it special for you and H. Good luck to you
loveless
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Doesn't it though? I am so happy that you have gotten to this point. You don't know when it will happen but suddenly, "Whala!" They have become an irritation and down right annoying. You just want them to take a permanent hike and leave you alone. Welcome to the state of indifference.
(((Hugs)))
~Iddy~
Hi Beautiful,
I like your willingness to not give up and continue to work at LC/NC. It does not matter where you are in the process as long as you are willing to stay true to your desire to end the A! Good to see you back posting. I enjoy reading your posts.
So I’m going to wish you luck not just on 90 days but beyond and encourage your continued and renewed investment in yourself and your healing.
Big hugs,
E1
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
NEVER thought I would ever feel this way about him. And you know what I think he feels the same. Some days are harder than others. But in my own time I have taken off the rose colored glasses. And I owe it to the wonderful people on this board. All the great inspiration that ladies pass on here is remarkable. I know I am well on my way.....
Thankyou all :)
Thanks for saying you enjoy reading my posts....