I turned them down.

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I turned them down.
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Edited 4/29/2010 4:33 pm ET by hazelrose2009
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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 7:33pm

Good job and my advice would be to KEEP turning them down. Stop ripping open a wound that wants to heal. Remember when you were so hurt you were never going to see them again? Get back into that mind frame. You MUST do this for your own protection and that of your H's. I know you are struggling, but it will pass quicker this time now that you've had experience in the LC department. It's time to take it to the next step; NC -

   ~Iddy~ 


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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 7:35pm

((Hazel))


I am so proud of you for doing what you know you have to do in order to get off this crazy merry-go-round!! I know it's not easy. I know it, sister. I'm sooooo proud of you. You DO have the strength to control your actions. It was hard, but it was that simple, too, wasn't it? That's a huge leap and you should feel especially proud of yourself! So what kind of junk food ya gonna

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 8:10pm

((Hazel))

I don't even know you, but judging from your posts, you are such a sweetie - and you also seem to be so lonely in your marriage. I can imagine how broken is your poor little heart. Please be kind to yourself and embrace all the good things in your life. It is really big and brave thing that you did by turning them down, and we all know how much strength it all takes.

XOXO
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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 8:54am
Great job hazel. Ppl like us (abandoholics, love-aholics or whatever we are going through which makes us do crazy things like having an A with a MM) have to stay clear of those things that will temp us. For a long time, I craved the attention of men so bad that I literally had to run away from a MM when he even looked at me. Now that I am M, I don't go to lunch with other guys. I don't make conversations to friendly at work and when I feel that little tingle of excitement when a MM gives me the "eye" I run from it because I know that although I will never cheat on my DH and I will never mess around with a MM again, I know that I can still be vulnerable if I allow myself. You have to get those ppl out of your life for good. If you really think about it they really aren't your friends. Friends don't deceive each other that way. If you are looking to start living a life of integrity, honesty and self respect start doing so now. It's their M and what they do with each other is their business. I think most women think that a man has to not love his W or be unhappy to have an A and that is not true. He will use you as long as you allow him and go home to his W and play the model H. If you think it's torture watching him and her do what they are suppose to be doing (i.e. loving each other) imagine how your hubby would feel knowing that his W is deceiving him with one of his best friends.
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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 10:52am

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Good for you Hazel! So proud of you! You stuck up for yourself and what was best for you and your M.


Much love and big hugs,


E1


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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 10:54am

I think you are a sweetie too!

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 3:40pm
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Edited 4/29/2010 4:39 pm ET by hazelrose2009
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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 3:51pm

Glad you're doing well, Hazel. Those people are just so...dense:) Good for you for avoiding them both.

XOXO
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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 4:15pm

Ding, ding, ding!! I think we have a winner with Door #B!! JERK.


So proud of you, hazel!!! Stick to you guns. Don't over analyze because it just doesn't matter. Woo-Hoo for YOU!!

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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 5:45pm

Gone- thank you!!!!!! :)

Always- Yeah, he's a jerk. But i think he's also clueless lol :) Thanks honey.