4 Weeks NC

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Registered: 02-09-2010
4 Weeks NC
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Fri, 04-02-2010 - 12:22pm

Yesterday was 4 weeks of NC.

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Registered: 10-25-2009
Fri, 04-02-2010 - 1:58pm

JPTH:


Four weeks for me too.

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Registered: 02-09-2010
Fri, 04-02-2010 - 4:19pm

Happy 4 Weeks to you too KMG6!!


This is our third go around at nc (longest one was

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Registered: 10-25-2009
Fri, 04-02-2010 - 8:21pm

8 months!!!!

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Sat, 04-03-2010 - 9:31am

PMTH.


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Kudos on the 4 weeks of NC, but boo-p*ss on the stalking. You should know better . This is NOT officially breaking NC, but it fits within the parameter of *almost*, so it's time for a behavioral adjustment. You know that stove is HOT, so stop putting your hand on it. ;-)


((Hugs))


   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-20-2009
Sat, 04-03-2010 - 10:40am

JPTH,
Man, oh man. When I was newly out of my A, I too was a cyber stalker. Like you, I have super stalker skills and spent a lot of my precious time checking out his life from a distance. For the love of Pete, what a HUGE, stupid, self-destructive way to make my heart ache and my mind reel. I had to swear off of stalking before I could really begin to heal. Cyberstalking is just another way to break NC, though it's one-sided, it still has a very damaging result. I don't have to tell YOU this, do I?

You will find peace and distance from xAP only after you stop torturing yourself.

Good luck.
Dee

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Sat, 04-03-2010 - 6:20pm

Justpassmethehammer-

I know how tempting it is to look at pics on facebook or check out his profile, but you are only prolonging your pain. Remove him immediately so you don't get notifications when he's tagged in photos. I guarantee that as soon as you stop subjecting yourself to his pictures, you will start to feel better. Why do you keep picking at the scab (which is essentially what you are doing?) If you really want to move on and leave him behind, you need to do just that. There is no way looking at his pictures will make you feel good. I hope you have the strength to truly block and walk... otherwise, you are keeping yourself in the cycle and will not move on and heal.

Congrats on 4 weeks. That is a huge accomplishment. Keep going!

Hugs to you.

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/