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Sun, 04-04-2010 - 9:18am

Hi there,

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In reply to: actingasif_
Sun, 04-04-2010 - 3:43pm

I may get stoned for that, but I don't believe this is "mature love". I don't believe it's love at all. I have absolutely no advice because I can't kiss my husband either, and it's a sad state of affairs (no pun intended). We spent last week being on vacation, and I swear I have much more fun just being by myself because he never wants to do anything anyway, and he is not even 40 yet. It's not age, it's state of mind.

Happy Easter
XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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In reply to: actingasif_
Sun, 04-04-2010 - 4:01pm

AAI,


I love my H, too, for the good person he is. Stable, faithful, loyal, loving. I wish it were enough for me, but for some reason it

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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In reply to: actingasif_
Sun, 04-04-2010 - 4:39pm

GBG, are you married to my husband??? LOL.


I dread the thought of ever going on vacation alone with H. I have a much better time, like you, by myself or with girlfriends, or some other couples.


Agree that state of mind makes the whole difference when it comes to age. I never really even think about how old I am because I am so young at heart. My H is 50 (and I will admit he's in very good physical shape), but he acts so much older. He thinks like an older person. It is freakin boring me to death!!!! Oh yeah, I have no desire to have long passionate kisses with H. Blech. Isn't that pathetic?


Hey, you girls want to meet up for a long weekend? Perhaps a quick 3 or 4 day cruise? Wouldn't that be a hoot!!

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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In reply to: actingasif_
Sun, 04-04-2010 - 6:42pm
Oh my goodness!
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In reply to: actingasif_
Sun, 04-04-2010 - 7:05pm

I would love to go! Gosh, after that "vacation" I need another vacation to recuperate. I am thinking about divorce as well because I can't imagine living like that forever (and I am 36). Hate to sound so negative;(

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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In reply to: actingasif_
Mon, 04-05-2010 - 4:02am

My H is the same. Shy, predictable, but very sweet, well adjusted,

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In reply to: actingasif_
Mon, 04-05-2010 - 6:16am

I often wish I would have had the courage to leave my M when I was in my 30's. But I was scared, our children were young teens, I didn't have enough confidence in myself, and I was worried financially. DH was the stable one, with good paying job, benefits, etc. It was safer to stay.


Do you have children? Have you tried MC?


Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.