Firstly, if your M rocks.... then a lot of S posters on EAS would be quite envious of you, at least you have a partner, a distraction who cares for you and whose feelings are reciprocated. a void that can be filled with a little focus and hard work.
Meh, no biggie. Try to chalk this up to just one more of those nasty waves we have to endure as a result of our A. Don't make too much out of it - obsess about obsessing - just.... ride it out. It will pass. Sure, we'd like all the negativity to cease and desist tout suite, but it doesn't happen that way. You're being given this challenge for a reason. Is it to steal your resolve or to tempt you to fail? You have the option of deciding.
I know how hard it can be to stay on track and I don't even have an XAP to go fishing.......and am starting to realize how glad I am for having an XAP who stays away and allows me to heal w/out any fishing at all becuase I realize how much just one little comment, question, nice gesture or anything of the sort can really set one back.
Like you, my M really "rocks" too if I am completely honest. My H is wonderful, adores me, worships the ground I walk on, he looks at me like he did when we were first married/dated.
Don't let him get you off track, he isn't worth it. Think of how awesome your H is and the life you have that is REAL, not some fantasy crap.
At least you deleted your message...I would have listened to it just to see how pathetic he was, laughed hysterically, and thrown a pity party for him. Real mature on my part I know, but that is just me.
Hi Alice
Firstly, if your M rocks.... then a lot of S posters on EAS would be quite envious of you, at least you have a partner, a distraction who cares for you and whose feelings are reciprocated. a void that can be filled with a little focus and hard work.
Bargaining with xAp?
New Choices, New Chapter,
New Challenges,
Meh, no biggie. Try to chalk this up to just one more of those nasty waves we have to endure as a result of our A. Don't make too much out of it - obsess about obsessing - just.... ride it out. It will pass. Sure, we'd like all the negativity to cease and desist tout suite, but it doesn't happen that way. You're being given this challenge for a reason. Is it to steal your resolve or to tempt you to fail? You have the option of deciding.
This isn't hell, but you can see it from here!
Keep on keeping on, Alice. You can do this.
Dee
I know how hard it can be to stay on track and I don't even have an XAP to go fishing.......and am starting to realize how glad I am for having an XAP who stays away and allows me to heal w/out any fishing at all becuase I realize how much just one little comment, question, nice gesture or anything of the sort can really set one back.
Like you, my M really "rocks" too if I am completely honest. My H is wonderful, adores me, worships the ground I walk on, he looks at me like he did when we were first married/dated.
Don't let him get you off track, he isn't worth it. Think of how awesome your H is and the life you have that is REAL, not some fantasy crap.
Hugs
We throw produce around here?
At least you deleted your message...I would have listened to it just to see how pathetic he was, laughed hysterically, and thrown a pity party for him. Real mature on my part I know, but that is just me.
Alice, I know the fishing attempt threw you off balance