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Wed, 09-01-2010 - 2:32pm

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Wed, 09-01-2010 - 3:16pm

I didn't even read the whole thing, because the answer, no matter what the context, is, of course, do not send it.


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Registered: 03-08-2009
Wed, 09-01-2010 - 4:10pm
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Registered: 01-04-2010
Wed, 09-01-2010 - 8:37pm
alice,
i am proud of you for posting this letter here rather than sending it to me. i have often thought about the fact that we should just have an angry letter thread. in my journal, i've written letters to my AP, H, the BS, myself, my mom...everybody i think who has been affected by this A. writing is cheaper than therapy and less damaging than actually going after the guy with a knife, so good for ya :)
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 12:42am

I know you were just putting it out here...just to get it out....because you assured us you weren't going to do it, but you know me, always have to say something about something :)


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Registered: 08-21-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 6:52am

Yes, well done for posting this here Alice.


I feel my Christian faith has been compromised and of course it has, but if i am honest i was pitching for an affair for about 12 months before i got into one. That was down to my resentment against my wife and my failed attempts to change her - yep, i can change no one but myself. The prospect of no sexual intimacy however filled me with sadness and frustration and still does.


I often want the best for my AP and her marriage and family life. In some ways i think her marraige is healthier than mine but then i think i base that on the fact the she 'lets him' have sex with her, and obviously havign sex in their marraige does not make for bliss.


But what worries me is that i dont hate my AP, or dislike her. We havent rowed yet, have not made demands, have no tmade threats. I know that i shoudl be pleased that we have not yet tasted all of that, but of course one thing it does not do is propel me away from her.


I find myself having to really scrape around to come up with objectionable things about her.


I know these are all features of an affair. In fact they are the features of any early romantic relationship. Most of us get on famously when we date someone initially. We dont really show our true selves when we begin dating even in legitimate relationships, at least in my experience.


These are the reasons i keep asking if anger is required.


Sorry, my head hurts.........................


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Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 8:44am

Are you still in your affair, RP?


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Registered: 02-25-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 10:51am

Yes clarity ....cos he is still on holidays.... reckon it all goes down this weekend or early next week ....


ROB

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,

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Registered: 02-25-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 10:59am

Sorry Alice... hijacked yr thread a little to RP... am feeling 'tetchy' tonight...mybe my patience is wearing thin.... yay !!


good letter... good place to post it.....


stay strong... your personality shines thru in your posts


NC x

No Cheating, No Compromise, No Contact!


NC since

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 12:16pm

My Dear Alice,


First I want to say that I am glad you wrote your letter out here without ANY intention of sending it, right? Secondly, I just wanted to quickly say that I hope writing this out has now offered a much needed release and that this urge to write XMM can now be put to bed. You've had what now, almost a week to chew on this? Enough already, my friend. He is so not worth one more moment of your time or energy. Let's get back to focusing on Alice and how she is fairing. Also...

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 12:24pm

Rob,


You were nudged last week by CM Tasha to post on the MAS board if your A wasn't over yet. It seems that you have ignored her suggestion, so I will

   ~Iddy~ 


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