I will give you my perspective, sorry but it's probably not what you want to hear. If you had interviewed me in my home, and we were there alone, and you said something along the lines of getting me into bed, I have to tell you, it would make me very uncomfortable. Now, a minor compliment or flirtation might be one thing, but any hinting of hopping in the sack would have me reaching for the phone and/or a weapon. Granted, if you are a ringer for Brad Pitt,
Muffdiver, I know where you are coming from. I too have had similar thoughts. Wondering in the back of mind. Now my situations completely different from yours. My job or job form the past did not deal with interviews. But where I have felt a connection with a female in a professional business setting.
One time a few years back I was working with a lady on a fundraiser for a charity. We had a meeting with some other people. We discussed the charity before others showed up and after other people left when the meeting was over. Several times she crossed her legs to show the tops of her stockings with garter, there was plenty of smiles, flirting,
If you value your job , and opportunities like this come along ,leave it a flirtatious fantasy . You think of things you do not know , their health issues , mental , and physical , , jealousies , loss of current family . For what it is worth A passing interest is one thing , flirting is harmless for the most part , and leaves the fantasy intact ! S.T.D. a gift that keeps on giving ,
I think there are alot of women out there who would be very uncomfortable in that situation. It could prove to be intimidating as well, depending upon the woman. It wouldn't make me uncomfortable, but my reaction would be determined by the man sitting in front of me. In all likelyhood I'd reply respectfully and decline, unless you're secretly the lead guitarist for a black metal band and are covered in tattoos under that white button up shirt and tie. ~wink~. But seriously I think most women would not appreciate it, however if they indicated they were interested, that might be a different story.
Jim usually even if a woman would like to bed you at that moment she wont'. Most women have to get to know a man some before they will have sex with them. You might try asking her if you could call her sometime and take her out. That way she knows you are interested. If she says ok then you might mention, ( I just have to tell you I find you very attractive and hope that we can meet up sometime). I really doubt you would ever bed a woman on first meeting. If she says she would like to go out with you, you can try to find out more about her by asking questions at this first meeting. Some women will flirt and even give off sexual vibes, but if she really wasn't expecting you to ask her out or much less be interested in her, it will take her some time to think aobut the whole thing. When you call her, you could say you've been thinking about her.(only if she agrees to go out with you).
I will give you my personal experiance 2 different stories. A man that I was attracted to, one day ask me if he could come in and get a drink of water, I said sure. Well one thing led to another, I had to ask him to leave. Let me set this straight, we were just talking and yes I wanted to sleep with him but because he thought I would have sex with him after I just found out he was attracted to me I was turned off and never did sleep with him. I guess I figured he thought I was easy.
Second guy I met found very attractive. Spoke with him 3 times on the phone and we went out on a date. That night lets just say we were busy all night long.
you have to give a woman a chance to catch up to you being attracted to her and if you let her think about it lets just say the sex will be way better.
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Hi Jim,
I will give you my perspective, sorry but it's probably not what you want to hear. If you had interviewed me in my home, and we were there alone, and you said something along the lines of getting me into bed, I have to tell you, it would make me very uncomfortable. Now, a minor compliment or flirtation might be one thing, but any hinting of hopping in the sack would have me reaching for the phone and/or a weapon. Granted, if you are a ringer for Brad Pitt,
It's very easy to tell right from wrong. Wrong is the FUN one.
Muffdiver, I know where you are coming from. I too have had similar thoughts. Wondering in the back of mind. Now my situations completely different from yours. My job or job form the past did not deal with interviews. But where I have felt a connection with a female in a professional business setting.
One time a few years back I was working with a lady on a fundraiser for a charity. We had a meeting with some other people. We discussed the charity before others showed up and after other people left when the meeting was over. Several times she crossed her legs to show the tops of her stockings with garter, there was plenty of smiles, flirting,
Thanks for your input, male 65401, but that's a completely different situation.
It's very easy to tell right from wrong. Wrong is the FUN one.
Jim,
w*o*w - I'm surprised that the women allow you in their homes while they are alone.
Lothiriel
Please, no more posts.
It's very easy to tell right from wrong. Wrong is the FUN one.
Not to worry Muffy.
You have endeared yourself here... if nothing else from your name alone.
I'm just saying....
Mrs P
Jim usually even if a woman would like to bed you at that moment she wont'. Most women have to get to know a man some before they will have sex with them. You might try asking her if you could call her sometime and take her out. That way she knows you are interested. If she says ok then you might mention, ( I just have to tell you I find you very attractive and hope that we can meet up sometime). I really doubt you would ever bed a woman on first meeting. If she says she would like to go out with you, you can try to find out more about her by asking questions at this first meeting. Some women will flirt and even give off sexual vibes, but if she really wasn't expecting you to ask her out or much less be interested in her, it will take her some time to think aobut the whole thing. When you call her, you could say you've been thinking about her.(only if she agrees to go out with you).
I will give you my personal experiance 2 different stories. A man that I was attracted to, one day ask me if he could come in and get a drink of water, I said sure. Well one thing led to another, I had to ask him to leave. Let me set this straight, we were just talking and yes I wanted to sleep with him but because he thought I would have sex with him after I just found out he was attracted to me I was turned off and never did sleep with him. I guess I figured he thought I was easy.
Second guy I met found very attractive. Spoke with him 3 times on the phone and we went out on a date. That night lets just say we were busy all night long.
you have to give a woman a chance to catch up to you being attracted to her and if you let her think about it lets just say the sex will be way better.
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