Dream or Fantasy? Sex with a Co-worker?
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Dream or Fantasy? Sex with a Co-worker?
| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 12:11am |
I'm new to this whole posting thing, but to be honest, I'm at a bit of a loss right now. I'm 30 yrs old, recently married to my best friend, we've been together for 4 and 1/2 years. What I'm struggling with is that I seem to have no desire to be with him sexually, gosh, for a while now. I have to force it almost. But, and this is why I have filed this post in 'fantasy', I recently had the most vivid dream that has pretty much shook me to my core. Is it a fantasy or just a dream? I essentially had a really intense, the world is under attack and I'm running running to safety with this man, (who's not my husband) and we end up having the craziest, most passionate sex ever. The problem is, this guy is a good friend of mine, a co-worker, someone I respect. I also adore his wife, and they have a fantastic marriage. What is wrong with me?! I'm on a business trip right now, and there is a bunch of us, himself included, and it's actually making me uncomfortable. My husband and I both work so much, the time we do see eachother is few and far between, and we are both so exhausted we don't make time for sex. I know it's frustrating for him, but I'm seriously just not interested. So how is it that I have this crazy intense dream, that feels so real, but it's not with him? How do I turn the fantasy into a reality with my husband? And why does part of me want the fantasy to become a reality with this friend of mine? I seriously feel like I'm losing it, any advice would be helpful.

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Well, why not try setting aside some time for you and your husband. There is nothing wrong with fantasies, as long as they are kept that way and not acted upon.
I'm not sure.I dont think so. But she does send mix signals about him. She also gives me mixed signals.
SO lets say NO!
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Have you tried to sit down with your SO and talk this out. Explain that you are just never going to be the kind of traditional wife that he may be looking for. If necessary, maybe seek out some counseling to hash this out.
Above all, never sleep with a co-worker! I think they call it, never sh*t where you eat! I have seen some very disastrous events come from this at places where I have worked. Nothing but nothing good ever comes of it. Good Luck.