submissive?

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Wed, 03-19-2008 - 5:55pm

Ok I know this is the place to ask. I know I have my ideas of what being a collared submissive is but can someone give me more information on this? I was just wondering and I know this board has a ton of information. Please fill me in and thank you ........

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Registered: 02-28-2006
In reply to: hotallthetime
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 7:08pm
Some (non-clickable, on account of TOS) links on the subject that you might find helpful:

www(dot)leathernroses(dot)com/generalbdsm/ravencollar.htm



www(dot)soulshaven(dot)f2s(dot)com/sub_collars.php3



www(dot)albanypowerexchange(dot)com/BDSMinfo/the_collar.htm




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Registered: 08-03-2003
In reply to: hotallthetime
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 10:32pm
Thank you Steve I will look at these.
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Registered: 09-20-2007
In reply to: hotallthetime
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:48am
If you would like to know more about a submissive's life, then just ask away. I've been collared for 8 years and there are other submissives here on this board. We will be glad to fill you in on what the
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Registered: 08-03-2006
In reply to: hotallthetime
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 7:50am

Like Sisterhoney, I too am a submissive. Feel free to ask whatever you like, we're pretty open people ~smile~

Lothiriel


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Registered: 08-03-2003
In reply to: hotallthetime
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 10:15pm

Thank you both for your quick response. Are you submissive to your master in every area of you life?


Do you get a say so?


Is it more of a sexual thing or is there more to it?

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Registered: 09-20-2007
In reply to: hotallthetime
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 1:17am

As for myself, yes, I am submissive to my Master in every day life, though He doesn't rule me with an iron fist. I do wear a collar 24/7 and refer to Him as "Master" and "Sir," as well as by His first name. I do have a say so in O/our relationship, though I defer to Him in most decisions. W/we discuss major decisions, though He will usually make the final one. He will sometimes pick out my clothes, decide what W/we'll eat, where W/we spend vacation, etc.


I always have the use of a safeword and He respects my limits sexually. A lot of it has do with sex, but it goes far deeper than that. My Master knows me better then I know myself. He completely accepts me and I trust Him implictly, so much so that I willingly hand control over to Him. When I found Him and began O/our D/s relationship I knew that I had finally come home. I am safe with Him because I know that He would never intentionally hurt me. I can tell Him all my lurid fantasies and He accepts them and does His best to help me fulfill them. He was the one who showed me how much I enjoy pain, bondage, being controlled, etc. I will never go back to a vanilla erlationship. I simply can't get what I want and need from that.

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Registered: 01-25-2008
In reply to: hotallthetime
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 7:22am

Whats this collar thing? I submit to my lover all the time but we have never used any thing other than our hands. He makes me submit by grabbing my throat and holding me down. I have seen collar's in porn but I am having trouble wrapping my mind around master submissive thing.

Help me understand?

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Registered: 08-03-2006
In reply to: hotallthetime
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 7:44am
My DH and I do not practice D/s 24 hours a day. We have a little boy who is 8 years old, and its not a part of our relationship that we feel the need to expose him to. I am very much the dominant one in our regular lives, I take

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Registered: 08-03-2003
In reply to: hotallthetime
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 8:38am

I dont' know much about this life style but thank you for helping me understand. First I want to say, I think you and your master should be commended for noticing your son is too young to understand. I can tell by your writing you care for your son and are probably a great mother and very smart! So if I understand

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Registered: 02-28-2006
In reply to: hotallthetime
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 8:42am
The collar is a lifestyle D/s thing. It isn't really a prop for use in the bedroom ("hey, honey, let's use the collar tonight") although it certainly does have features that can be used there. It's more symbolic of the D/s relationship between Dom and sub, and is also a sign to other lifestylers that this sub is "owned" and is not available for play with others. The symbolism of the collar in lifestyle D/s relationships is often compared to that of the wedding ring in vanilla marriages. You can read some of the articles in the links I posted for more details.




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