bad fantasy??

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2008
bad fantasy??
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Sat, 09-27-2008 - 1:19am

My wife is a stay at home mom (all the kids are in school) and in every area but one a great woman and friend.

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Registered: 09-18-2008
In reply to: woody2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 6:15am

This isn't over the top, and there are more men than you think who want to see their woman with another or other men (mine included). Just read some of the messages here.

I think it's perfectly normal that you'd feel this way since your wife is straight laced as you say.

Just enjoy your fantasy and have fun with it!

bcvcb
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Registered: 09-27-2008
In reply to: woody2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 3:45pm

Thanks for your supportive reply.

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Registered: 09-18-2008
In reply to: woody2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 8:20pm

Your wife is a lucky woman, I'm sorry that you have to finish yourself off sometimes.

My Fwb guy does have the same fantasy. Check my posts to Fantasy: Its all about the size. You get my story there.

I'm wondering what was her upbringing? Was she told sex was bad, or good girls don't initiate? Does she think toys are taboo, but something ordinary that can be used the same way is ok? Are her parents strict? Finding out the cause, or her way of thinking may help a lot.

Getting into a Fwb is risky, it never just stays about sex, no matter how hard you try. Believe me. I understand your frustration, I'd think the same way too. maybe by finding out why, you don't have to resort to an affair.

Hope everything works out

bcvcb
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Registered: 09-27-2008
In reply to: woody2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 8:35pm

.......you hit the nail on the head.

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Registered: 09-18-2008
In reply to: woody2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 8:46pm

Good news is that she's willing to use ordinary things; hey if it gets the job done, why not! I know it's not as exciting as a toy though.

Undoing her internal dialogue will be very hard. Does it help at all that it has nothing to do with you? Will she talk about it, to you or anyone?

I know my fantasies will never happen, but I wouldn't trade them for the world! Maybe you can pretend you're the other guy?

Oh, and thanks for the compliment! lol

bcvcb
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
In reply to: woody2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 11:12pm
Well, if you know she has hangups why not discuss them or get counseling?
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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: woody2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 8:31am

Hi and welcome woody. Will you please fill in your profile so we can know something about you? Thanks. Stick around and jump in anytime.


Lots of men have this type of fantasy. Nothing wrong with that. As for your wife not initiating, have you tried talking to her about this? What does she say/do? Why is it that you never get off and have to finish yourself?

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