So, what do you think?

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Registered: 11-07-2008
So, what do you think?
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Wed, 11-19-2008 - 4:52pm
The other day my wife and I got in to a "discussion" about fantasies. She stated that she "NEVER" has fantasies. I personally find this hard to belief. Yes, I have lots of them. However, I am extremely reluctant to share them with her because of her attitude about fantasies. Do any of you think that it is true she never fantisizes? I don't know how it is possible for a 45 year old to never have sexual thoughts.

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Registered: 08-13-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 5:02pm

Hiya cowboyteacher! Welcome to the board- do stay a while, everyone here is truly accepting and friendly.

In my humble opinion, I think that your wife probably does fantasize, but perhaps doesn't want to admit it to you. She might have said that to see if she could get some "dirt" out of you, i.e have you spill about your fantasies. Fantasizing about sexual things is completely normal, and can be more personal to some than to others; perhaps your wife wants to keep them to herself. If that's the case, you should too! No use starting an argument, IMO. ;oP

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aalisig
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Wed, 11-19-2008 - 5:08pm

Thanks for the welcome.


That is kind of where my thoughts are on this. And I agree if she isn't going to share why should I:)

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Wed, 11-19-2008 - 5:19pm

Hi welcome to the board.

I have to say she might have one fantasy that has never come true. Do you talk to her about thing like that? Have you ever expressed any of yours to her? Sometimes communication does wonders. Good luck. Stick around there are a bunch of great people here.

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Wed, 11-19-2008 - 5:44pm

Hi cowboy. It's so nice to meet you. I read your profile and I just love your favorite quote and best advice. Stick around and jump in anytime. The people here are awesome! And we have loads of fun.... lol


Well, I think it is very possible that she doesn't have any fantasies. Or maybe she doesn't look at them as fantasies. I will be honest and tell you that I never really fantasized until I came on these boards. I guess I just never thought about all the sexual stuff that goes on. Sure, I thought about sex, but not about being tied up, or being in a D/s relationship, using toys, etc.


What are some of your fantasies? Maybe then we can help you out a little better. How about you both



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Registered: 04-20-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 5:45pm

Howdy. If she doesn't fantasize you can sell me the Brooklyn Bridge. It's possible her fantasies are the opposite of her mindset/personality that she's too embarressd to tell you. As was stated in the other post,keep yours to yourself.


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Registered: 10-15-2006
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 6:24pm

Hi cowboyteacher! I am Mrs P.....


As others have said...fantasies are very personal. Some people

Mrs P

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Registered: 01-22-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 6:28pm

Welcome to the board cowboyteacher.

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Registered: 05-21-2007
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 10:33pm

Hi, it could be a question of definition? You asked, "I don't know how it is possible for a 45 year old to never have sexual thoughts".

Happy together for 20+ years....

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Registered: 02-27-2007
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 10:37pm

Welcome cowboyteacher!

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Registered: 11-07-2008
Mon, 11-24-2008 - 5:35pm

Thanks to all who have responded and for the warm welcome. I have been reading these boards for a little while now and I really appreciate the kind comments.


I have shared one fantasy and she just looked at me. No comment one way or the other but she damn sure didn't indicate she wanted any part of it. I am the open one in the relationship. (can't seem to keep my mouth shut). I don't mean any offense, but I have said that I am the girl in the relationship as I always seem to be doing the talking:)


I personally think that she is probably fantasizing about her ex-husband. Long story and I don't want to go into it. But there it is.


Guess there isn't much to do about it, just wanted someone elses opinion.


Anyway thanks for the welcome and i will be checking in off and on. Kind of like the way I wear my clothes:)

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