Off topic but I need some feedback......
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|Fri, 05-05-2000 - 7:53pm|
Off topic but I need some feedback...........(more)
Does anyone else have a family member who deals with chronic pain? My husband had a back injury at work several years ago and has been in pain ever since (some days are pretty good -- some are pretty awful). He went for about 22 months without working following the injury but has been back to work - on light duty - since December. About 5 weeks ago, he started having really severe pain that didn't ease up with rest or exercise. His doctor told us yesterday that the latest MRI shows 3 herniated discs in his upper back. Some of the side effects, besides PAIN, have been numbness and tingling in his right arm, shooting pains down his legs.......a jumble of nasty little things too numerous to mention. The doctor has prescribed Percodan and Valium for him to control the pain -- if you've ever taken these drugs you KNOW what they do to you. He's become a walking (stooped over) zombie! Now here's the kicker -- the doctor told him not to drive while taking these medications. But the doctor said there's no reason why he can't work.
DID I MISS SOMETHING HERE????????????????
He's taking narcotics to control his pain. Back surgery is in his immediate future. He is not allowed to operate a vehicle. But he's supposed to go to work every day and function. Without a lot of detail, my dh's work involves a pretty fair amount of physical labor and a LOT of standing and walking -- 2 things that are causing him great pain at the moment.
Here's my selfish point of view to this whole mess. We live in a town of over a million people. I am now expected to shuttle him to and from his job (located approx. 18 miles due north of our home) and get myself to my job (located approx. 28 miles southeast of our home). I am now 100% responsible for making sure our 11 yr. old gets to and from school and the 5 yr. old gets to and from preschool.
I love this man dearly and I understand it's not his fault -- he didn't drop a huge wooden frame brace on his back on purpose. This whole thing just has me running in circles. My attitude is going down the tubes. John is in pain so he's snapping at the kids for things that normally wouldn't bother him.
I'm not sure why I'm posting this. I think I needed to let it off my chest and try and get some focus to the situation. I'm just not sure where to start.....
Thanks for listening to my whine.