NEED SOME HELP... PLEASE!!!!
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NEED SOME HELP... PLEASE!!!!
| Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:38am |
OK EVERYONE I NEED SOME WELL A LOT OF HELP. ME AND MY GIRLFRIEND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF NOW. WE WERE BOTH EACHOTHERS FIRST. WE NOW LIVE TOGETHER, BUT BEFORE WE MOVED IN TOGETHER OUR SEX LIFE WASN'T ALL THAT GREAT. I'M TALKIN ONCE A MONTH. IT SUCKED. SO I TOLD HER THAT I WANTED IT TO BE MORE OFTEN. SHE SAID NOT TO WORRY IT WOULD ALL CHANGE WHEN WE MOVED IN TOGETHER. SO I SAID FINE AND LET IT GO. SO NOW WE'RE LIVING TOGETHER AND IT IS JUST ABOUT THE SAME. THE DEAD ONLY HAPPENS ABOUT ONCE EVERY THREE WEEKS. EVERYTIME WE DO HAVE SEX SHE NEVER INSTIGATES IT, I'M THE ONE THAT ALWAYS DOES. IF I DON'T, THERE IS NO DOUBT IN MY MIND THAT SHE COULD GO YEARS WITHOUT IT. LETS JUST SAY SHE HAS NO SEX DRIVE AT ALL. SHE WON'T LET ME GO DOWN ON HER, SHE HAS NEVER TRIED ORAL ON ME, AND THE ONLY POSITION WE HAVE EVER TRIED IS MISSIONARY. SHE IS ON DEPO. SHE HAS BEEN ON THAT FOR ABOUT TWO YEARS NOW. I'V HERD ABOUT SOME PEOPLE LOOSING THEIR SEX DRIVE BECAUSE IF THE SHOT. IS THERE ANY MEDS OR ANY THING THAT WOULD HELP THE SIDE AFFECT OF THE SHOT? PLEASE HELP ME. IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO FOR THIS. I NEED HELP BAD. ANYTHING WILL HELP.
THANX A TON,
INICEGUY
THANX A TON,
INICEGUY

There are two reasons for lack of interest in sex....physical, or mental. If she's on depo, that means she sees her doctor regularly to get the shot, but has she ever asked for and/or gotten a complete physical? Particularly hormone level tests? If she hasn't, she should. Is she on any kind of medications? Meds can alter libido, particularly antidepressants.
If she has no physical reasons, then it's mental. She's been raised by people or a religion that says sex is nasty and dirty, and "nice girls" don't do those things....Or maybe she just isn't that interested in the relationship, other than a place to live.
She's the only one who can tell you what her problem is, and maybe even she doesn't know. Something is wrong when a person isn't willing to experiment a little, with postions, etc. The only way to fix it is to talk to her about it, and tell her what you want...and see if you can work out a compromise. If you can't, then there's not much point in continuing the relationship. If you can't get what you want or need from her, you need to find someone who's more compatible with you sexually. If you don't get out of the relationship, you'll find yourself cheating on her anyway, so you might as well either fix it, or get out of it.
Leticia