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| Fri, 05-14-2004 - 3:19pm |
O.K. This one is kind of directed at you TaoistNovice.
What is Taoism??? Define it if you will. I have heard the term used several times, and they all used it to describe different things. I do not recall most of them, but I would like to hear how you define it. If you don't mind sharing this info that is. I am just curious as I have studied many religions, and since taoism ends in ism, I would only assume it is some form of belief system. Thanks for any info you are willing to share. I am greatly intregued.

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ps i too love water ride parks! enjoy your day!
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Since I practice ejaculation control and orgasm without ejaculating, I'm often left with an erection when we "finish" , but it eventually subsides. Ejaculation is really not necessary for a man, and the Taoists believe that ejaculating too often is not good for a man's health. That's why they teach how to separate ejaculation from orgasm so men can make love frequently and be multi-orgasmic ,too.
Often times my husband will pleasure me and not want anything for himself.
Sounds like you had a fantastic morning Taoist, dog walking included.
I too am interested in Taoism. I've never "met" one and have only read books. I realize there's more than the sexual aspect, but I'd like to ask something in that direction as well.
Now one concept you've mentioned is the separation of ejaculation and orgasm. If that's true, one can have one without the other. Same is true, I would assume, for the refractory period. All three are and should be separate processes.
On to my question: Is there a "way" to ejaculate without losing the erection?
Thanks in advance, mutt.
Taoism is a religious and/or philosophical system from China with an ancient history. If you've ever heard of Lao Tsu or Chuang Tzu, that is part of the philosophical aspect of Taoism. The religious aspect consists mainly of temples, priests, observances which are part of Chinese folk religion. The symbol of Taoism which most westerners are familiar with is the Yin/Yang sysmbol, with the Yin being the "female" principle and Yang being the "male" principle. This is a complimentary duality that is seen in all of nature. Things like Tai Chi and acupuncture are all part of the broad sweep of Taoism.
I have know about Taoism in general for more than 30 years and I spent a year in Taiwan and 2 years in China in the 1980s. I never knew anything about the sexual aspects until about a year ago. My DF had a book about acupressure for lovers and this had a small section about Taoism and sexuality. This led me to finding and reading "The Tao of Sex and Love" by Jo-Lan Chang and then to "The Multi-Orgasmic Couple" and "The Multi-Orgasmic Man" by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams. Really all I know comes from these books and personal experience. There are "Universal Tao" instructors and a web-site, but they seem to focus more on the health and meditational aspects rather than the specifically sexual ones, so I have never tried to contact one.
The basic Taoist message with regard to sexuality is that sexual satisfaction, and particularly female satisfaction, is important to the balance of Yin and Yang in the human spirit. They also believe the sexual pleasure between loving couples can be a form of spiritual meditation which also has physical benefits. Taoists believe that both male and female benefit from loving sexual activity and orgasm. Females can have multiple orgasms without loss of energy, but if males ejaculate too often this is not good for their health. Taoists teach techniques that enable males to control ejaculation and orgasm without ejaculating. Sometimes the instructions get really complicated and get caught up in talking about circulating energy, but the basic techniques are not that complex. A man can use contractions of his PC muscles and deep breathing techniques and stop his actual ejaculation after experiencing about 95% of the sensations of an orgasm with ejaculation. It takes time, it isn't easy, and it doesn't always work for me, though they say those who are really good at it can do it easily and reliably. When I do it, I lose some of my erection very briefly, but then(usually) can continue and have more orgasms. I've been able to have as many as six at maybe 1-2 minute intervals, but lately having three or even two is a challenge. This morning I had three, partly because I didn't allow the first two to go quite as far. I am 52 and I have always been quite slow to orgasm, so I don't know how well this works with younger and quicker guys. The books say it is easier for older men. Since I only ejaculate about once a week, our sessions end when either my DF or I want to stop (she has a bad hip which starts to hurt after a while) or I feel I'm not going to be able to orgasm again. Since she is very easily multi-orgasmic, she has many more than I do, and sometimes we are just limited by time or interest level.
That's very very general synopsis that I hope was useful for you.
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Thanks again,
Mutt
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