How does one DECREASE the libido?

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Registered: 05-15-2004
How does one DECREASE the libido?
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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 5:25pm
Hi all,

Is there a way to decrease libido? I am married, he doesn't want to have sex at all. And I do not wish to break up with him, because I do love him. Even though we have no sex at all (yes, none for years now), I still want to stay with him. Can't imagine a life without him. So breaking up is not a choice. Yet, I have such a high sex drive that it causes problems you know...for me? Sleepless nights. Uncomfortable so many times. I have the Hitachi magic wand. I use it and it only ends up making me feel worse because I get even more excited...I think I get orgasms too, but there is no sense of resolution after that. I just remain hanging up there, and do not know what to do then :-(. Is there something that I can do to decrease or eliminate the sex drive completely?

I know this is a weird question...because most questions are about increasing the libido. I wish to eliminate it, or at least decrease it. Any suggestions?

Thanks,

Sherry

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 5:38pm
Is there anything physically wrong or any mental barriers with
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 12:59am
I agree with Tish....there's nothing you can do but stop thinking about it, and that IS possible, if you really want to.

But, better yet, WHY doesn't he want sex at all? Isn't he concerned about YOUR needs? Have you ever talked about it? Have you ever explained that you have needs, too? Does he have a medical problem? Is he on medications that prevent him from getting an erection? Even without an erection, there are things he can do to give you pleasure. A healthy normal man of ANY age doesn't just give up sex for no reason. If you love him so much you wouldn't consider ending the marriage, does he even CARE about you, or your needs?

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Registered: 01-11-2004
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 9:34am
1-You didn't mention your ages.

2-IMO, your guy needs to get checked out by a urologist. I didn't have interest in sex; the urologist found that I didn't have enough testosterone.

3-After your guy gets checked out by the urologist, please keep us informed of his progress. Good luck, mac

 

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Registered: 05-15-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 3:05am
Thanks for your input everyone!

Love,

Sherry

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 9:13am
What are your ages?
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Registered: 05-15-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 8:32pm
I'm 37, he's 39. But this is how its been for years now. Oh well..