I need help!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 05-15-2004
I need help!!!!!!!!
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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 6:42pm
I need help! I was giving my boyfriend head and I couldn't get him to ejaculate...Is something wrong with me?
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Registered: 10-30-2003
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 6:50pm

Not all men can ejaculate from oral.

CL-Yasmin1967

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Registered: 03-13-2004
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 8:03pm
Uhhhhhh no. That happens to me sometimes with my bf. He's hard as hell and enjoys it so much (he is much more vocal during oral sex than intercourse, which I find interesting)... but he doesn't always cum. Sometimes it might be because of me switching it up a little, other times it's just a 10, but he doesn't finish.

Same goes with me!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 12:52am
You don't "get him to cum"......you just provide the stimulation, and he allows himself to do it. Some men can't do it from oral stimulation. Some men can't do it at all, so talk to him, find out if this is normal for him, and ask him what, if anything, you can to to make it better for him.

And, if he can't, then he can't....and either you or he can finish him by hand.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 1:21am
No, there's nothing wrong with you. Some guys just can't come from oral stimulation. Others take ages. Sometimes it's about relaxing and 'letting go', other times it's because the stimulation isn't just right, other times it's because they just don't get the exact right stimulation from orla sex in general.

I don't come that often from oral sex. I really, really enjoy it and it feels awesome but it's impossible for my partner to duplicate the intense, firm, regular stimulation that I need for longer than a few minutes. I guess it's a similar to how I masturbate, and you just can't duplicate that with your mouth.

Try out a few different little moves and ask him how he likes it. You may just need to adjust you technique slightly or add another move or two. I find that the BJ that is most likely to make me orgasm is one that uses your mouth and your hand on the shaft of his penis. It's almost more like a handjob than a BJ. My partner sort-of gets her mouth and hand in a swirling, bobbing, up and down rhythm. She grasps and pumps the shaft firmly with her free hand, giving a little twist as she moves it. She moves her mouth in time with her hand.

Anyway, don't worry if he doens't come. He'll be enjoying it immensely either way.