Sustain lust?

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Sustain lust?
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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 11:50am
After reading many of the responses regarding average duration of intercourse, I was curious as to what your preferred method is. With clitoral stimulation and intercourse, I can probably orgasm in less than five minutes and my DH could also, even without foreplay, but we enjoy the feeling of lust, so we make it linger whenever possible. I guess my question(after reading some of the responses), is do you enjoy quickies more than sustained lust, and if you had your choice to forego foreplay all together would you? I might have read too much into some of the responses, but that was my feel anyhow. Is the quicker the better orgasm the ultimate goal?

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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 12:22pm

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Not for me, I rather a long love making session to a quicky.

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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 12:58pm
I agree with Tish! The longer the better, and I'm fortunate to have a DBF who begs to eek things out as long as possible, normally a good couple of hours. Admittedly, it's not all fiery passion (that would be too exhausting) but incredibly tender and loving. No quickies for us, thanks!

I don't know if anyone else ever gets this feeling, but so often it's as though, even though we're not as nervous and we've had a lot more practice, we're being so intimate for the very first time: there are so many new feelings and sensations to experience that you have to go slowly to savour every moment. And I find it amazing when we first get completely undressed, my DBF just wants to hold me really tightly but very still for a few minutes because he finds it all so overwhelming. Personally I'd rather pause every now and then amidst being very passionate to enjoy the really gentle, tender moments of being completely in love and think it;s a great way to sustain desire.

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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 5:47pm
We fit our sessions into the time available. My DF can have her first orgasm in under five minutes and it takes me about 15 mins, but sometimes we just pleasure her. Generally 15-20 mins is our "quickie" . If we have more time, we extend the sessions and especially on the weekends I like to spend some time on lingering fore and afterplay. Basically we like them all, and the amount of time determines how many times she orgasms and sometimes even for me when I can manage 2 or 3.

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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 5:57pm
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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 5:59pm
No, quicker orgasms aren't the goal for us but quickies are inevitable when time and other circumstances keep you from enjoying more.

I take longer than 2-3 minutes to orgasm, so it's an understanding, with us, that a quickie is basically for my DH. I enjoy the closeness and stimulation, of course, and it's better than nothing, however, it's never been our first choice for mutual pleasure.

Quicker has never been better for me, even through masturbation.

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Sun, 05-16-2004 - 8:04pm
Fortunately, DW is capable of multiple, multiple orgasms. I get turned on just watching DW climax.

We generally devote an hour or more to hugging, kissing, manual and oral for her, then intercourse with some more manual, oral or play with her toys afterwords. DW will often cum seven, eight times, or more (I'm about to become a Taoist, but for now I'm generally only good for one orgasm a day).

However, in the early morning or when we're rushed for time, a twenty minute quicky can be a fun change of pace for both of us. I just love to wake up with DW in my arms, and rubbing her body...she seems to like it too. When I get out of bed before her, she'll call me back when she wakes up.

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 1:46am
I'm multi-orgasmic as well, but I still don't orgasm after 1-2 minutes, so quickies would not be satisfying to me as a steady diet. A quickie, in my definition, is intercourse with NO foreplay and that would mean NO orgasm for me at all! My DH and I find that the slower buildup of tension results in a more satisfying and explosive orgasm(s) than one resulting from just a few minutes of intercourse.


Edited 5/17/2004 1:58 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 8:43am
<< A quickie, in my definition, is intercourse with NO foreplay... >>

If that's the definition of a quickie then we never do quickies.

Its more fun if DW has at least one orgasm through manual or oral before I enter her. That way she generally has another climax during intercourse, making it more enjoyable for both of us.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 12:51pm
We enjoy sustained lust more than quickies. My hubby likes quickies in the kitchen sometimes when I'm cooking, but everywhere else we like to play around before actual intercourse. Forego foreplay? Well, maybe sometimes - when we've been active a lot. My hubby wants it too much, so sometimes a qickie or breast sex is easier for me. The ultimate isn't always about climaxing for us, I don't think. It's the playing around that he can't get enough of.



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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 2:39pm
hi free...uh huh i enjoy "quickies" sometimes, for instance my husband used to stop home for lunch and we'd animally go at it right on my desk while his co-worker waited out in the truck...oh that can be exciting!....i also sometimes opt for no foreplay and to enjoy a long session of intercourse...with my husband, the longer our foreplay the shorter time he could last during intercourse even if he only played with me (he said cause he was get super aroused watching me orgasm during intercourse)...and so for us it was often adventageous to forgo foreplay and than he'd last longer during intercourse...i was widowed a couple of years ago and i am involved with a new man for about a year...as always i love occasional quickies (they can make my knees soo weak), i love foreplay, and i also love no foreplay and long sessions of intercourse.

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