Help somebody NO SEX AT ALL WHY ?

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Help somebody NO SEX AT ALL WHY ?
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 5:47am
Please somebody help me out i really need it my b/f and me have been together now for about four yrs are sex life has always been great , all the time .He couldnet even keep his hands off of me , but after leaving my family and stuff and then moving into his familys house we have no sex life at all , you see im only 18 and hes 19 and his family wont even let us sleep in the same bed when i first got there he still wanted me we were going to motels and stuff but i have been with them now for like 2 and half months and NOTHING he wont makeout with me, touch me or really pay any attention to me i cant dress up like i used to cuz i dont want to disrespect his mom in her house hold , but he will still let me give him oral all the time there but nothing else i will metion going out to a motel and he makes some excuse about how we dont have enough money or hes to tired i just dont get it at all , i will try to talk to him about how i want pleasure to and he says oh later oh later and then he just goes to bed or something . so to end this long thing can someone give me advise i fell sexually frustrated and i have only been with him or by now i would have moved on ,i feel as though this is really ruining are relationship and i need some ADVISE please somebody give me some ideas , for him to want me again as much as i still want him
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Registered: 10-30-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:31am

Just like any problem in a relationship, you need to talk about it.

CL-Yasmin1967

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the courage to change the things I

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:33am
Why did you leave your family and move in with his family, at 18? I would guess your family didn't like him....because he doesn't work? Or isn't in any position to be living with a girlfriend. Evidently HIS family doesn't like it either, if they won't let you sleep together. I agree with them. You shouldn't be "playing house" if you can't afford a place to live. At 18, you have a lot of growing up to do yet, and you need to be at home with your own family, where you belong. You've been with him since you were 14, when you were a LITTLE girl, and had no business with a boyfriend. You've been with him all this time, and you have NO IDEA what a boyfriend is supposed to be, or how he's supposed to treat you.

ONE reason he isn't interested in sex could be because he know his family doesn't approve....however, he doesn't mind if you give him oral sex. Do you know what that's called? SELFISH! If you were a mature woman, you wouldn't put up with that, because you'd know that you have the same right to satisfaction that he does.

You say you can't leave him because he was your "first"? What does that have to do with anything? Do you think that you're condemned to stay with him forever because you made the mistake of giving him your virginity? This boy can't take care of you properly, and treats you like dirt, and uses you for sex. Go home where you belong, and do some growing up before you get into another relationship, or get stuck with a baby that you're too young to take care of, and he probably won't help you with. You BOTH have a lot of maturing to do.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 8:25am

I'm curious as to why you moved out of your home and moved into his parents home. How did that come about, did he offer you to move in or did you bring it up and ask him?

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