cummin on my face

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cummin on my face
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 6:43pm
My first time post. My boyfriend keeps cummin on my face when he knows I don't like it.It happened three times and I asked him nicely to stop it.Its not the worst thing, but this last time he actually held my head and it pissed me off.Why do guys like to do this?

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Registered: 10-10-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:05pm
Why? ... because it's sexy as hell when the vibe's just right. Clearly if you don't enjoy it, and you've let him know, it's unspeakably awful of him to keep doing it. The whole _point_ is that it's only fun if you're totally, totally into it.
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Registered: 05-17-2004
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:17pm
Thanks for your help, but I must clarify.I wasn't asking why they like to do *it* but why they don't listen.
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:31pm
Well they don't not listen. Or they shouldn't. The fact that your bf doesn't is a really bad sign. You should talk to him about it again, but if its not something you're willing to compromise on and he is still forcing it. That is a major relationship problem. Its extremeley disrespectful for him to not listen to your request that he not do that, and to force you. You should look at that as far as what kind of guy he is and if you want to continue a relationship with someone who will force something you've already asked him not to do.

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:31pm
that sucks that he held your head down when you made it clear. the reason he didn't listen is that he doesn't understand why you don't enjoy it since he does and there's a power-tripping thing mixed in there.

i've been in a situation where i forced someone to do something against their will and that was because i wanted to hurt them so they would know what it was like when they did it to me. maybe not the most mature way of handling things, but it was effective. i'm a chick, so maybe it's not the same for guys. ultimately, it's just a way of getting what you want.

sounds like it's really bothering you. have you talked to him about it (not cumming on your face, but doing something against your will) outside the bedroom in a neutral setting. if not, might be the best approach.

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Registered: 10-30-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:49pm

>>I wasn't asking why they like to do *it* but why they don't listen<<


Hon, your b/f doesn't represent the average man - most guys will listen.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:58pm
Well, MY guy doesn't enjoy it! He much prefers a warm vagina or mouth.

I'm just curious as to why you'd continue giving your guy oral sex when he treats you with such disrespect? A man would only hold my head down there ONCE, I guarentee you, but then again, my DH wouldn't do it because he feels it's disrespectful.

I mean, if you've TRIED to reason with him like an adult and he ignores you, then why continue making your face a target? If he sees that there is a consequence for ignoring you, ie., no BJ's, he'll stop.

It's obvious that he could care less what you think though, so why bother giving him another chance?




Edited 5/18/2004 12:24 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 8:03pm
A lot of guys just want that control or don't want to take no for an answer so they continue to do what they want. I don't like when my hubby gives me facials too much, but I do think there is a time when it's the best! And when it's one of those times that is super hot and everything just seems to be going that way, he will hold me head and face sometimes
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Registered: 04-04-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 8:12pm
Well, there are facials and there are facials. Huge difference between you holding your mouth open when he shoots and a bit of cum misses the target and runs down your cheeks, versus like him purposefully spraying it all over your hair, eyes and forehead. You'd better be very close with a guy and know he totally totally respects you before you let him do the latter. If so, it can be amazing, but if not, you feel like such a loser.
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 8:18pm

The majority of guys will listen and will not do anything that you don't want done.

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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 8:24pm
We are together only 3 1/2 months;and we just began having sex a month ago.He sprays it center of my face, I feel degraded and told him so.

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