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oral and anal sex advice
| Tue, 05-18-2004 - 1:18pm |
Okay first my boyfriend and I have been together for a few years oral sex is a huge part of our sex life but I can't make him cum orally, he has never complained about it he says he has only came through head about 5 times in his life but I want to be able to just give him a complete b/j sometimes. I know its not me because with every other partner i've had I can make them cum easily. I usually start off giving him head for 5-15 minutes then we have sex (which is great) he is the best lover i've ever had. I want to be able to make him cum orally any suggestions would be great.
Secondly I have been interested in anal lately for some reason but when I told him he could he got it in a little and I made him stop because it just didn't feel right. although I like it when right before I cum during vaginal sex he puts his finger in my ass and that just sets me off on a great orgasm.Any suggestions? Does it hurt everytime? Thanks
Secondly I have been interested in anal lately for some reason but when I told him he could he got it in a little and I made him stop because it just didn't feel right. although I like it when right before I cum during vaginal sex he puts his finger in my ass and that just sets me off on a great orgasm.Any suggestions? Does it hurt everytime? Thanks

As far as your first issue with him not being able to orgasm during oral sex, don't worry about it. Many men are not able to, or have a lot of difficulty orgasming during oral. This is really common and is not reflection on you. If he enjoys it and you enjoy giving it, just let it be what it is. The goal of sex is not always orgasm, it is intimacy and love.
As far as anal sex goes, there is tons of information on this website about how to do it without pain. It takes time, patience and lots and lots of lube. You should be VERY aroused to begin with. It is a gradual process, beginnining with fingers, maybe toys, and then finally his penis. You need to have control of the situation and complete trust that if you want your partner to stop, that he will stop. Pages and pages have been written on this subject, just at this website, so do a search, and I'm sure that you will find the information that you need.
Good luck.
Scott.