No more O's

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Registered: 01-18-2004
No more O's
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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 4:27pm
I certainly hope someone can answer my question. I’m 40-year-old woman who is in a loving long-term relationship. My problem is that I have 0 to no sexual response, what I mean is that I can’t get aroused therefore I do not have orgasm, the strange part is that I do produce that wetness but I do not feel anything. I have been “pretending” only because I feel it would be more damaging to him than to me. I ‘m the type of person that likes to look for way to solve problems. I’m taking Wellbeutrin 300mg XL and Effexor 150mg once a day.

I have spoken to my doctor and he says it’s OK that not all women have orgasm, but I DID and enjoyed them very much, I looked forward to having sex and miss that, today I have it because I think that maybe next time I may feel something but I do not.

My doctor gave me Levlen to “make it better” I actually do not need birth control because I had my tubes tied. I also have only one ovary.

My question is: are there ANY products out there herbal or otherwise that can at least make my genitals sensitive in order to feel something??

I was told about Yohimbe but I also read that it’s like a MOA and I’m afraid to try it because of the antidepressants I’m taking.

I want to know if there are any creams oils or something that can help temporarily, I feel that maybe if I get some sensitivity, it may bring my orgasm…HELP PLEASE

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 4:41pm

I posted this to you on the Cosmo channel also.


Well, in your doctor's eyes it might be ok that women don't orgasm, but in your eyes &

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 4:46pm
First, my suggestion is that you find another dr.! Any dr. who says that "it's okay, not all women have orgasms" is suspect in my mind! Most drs. will take a change like that seriously and won't callously brush it aside!

Secondly, the medications you're taking CAN and are likely affecting your sexual response. My DH used Effexor for a time and found it almost impossible to orgasm. Only after great effort and a lot of very hard thrusting could he get there. And while Wellbutrin is known to cause fewer sexual side effects, that still doesn't mean that it won't cause them for some.

My recommendation is to get another opinion from another dr. who will be willing to HEAR your complaint and work with you to solve the problem. Even if that means adjusting your dosages, or trying other medications. Just giving you another pill or supplement isn't the answer though!