Role playing

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Registered: 05-19-2004
Role playing
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 7:58pm
Coming out of lurkdom to ask a question: My husband and I have been together for 18 years. Our sex life has always been fulfilling and exciting, but we've never role played. I feel as though I'm maybe missing something. What exactly does it do and how often is it done? Whenever I would ask my husband if he wants me to dress up and role play, he just tells me that's silly. He says that I'm so sexy, he loves to look at me, as me. Are we missing some extra-arousal tool, or is it the same arousal as would be, were there not any role playing? I wouldn't want to be missing out, although I'd probably feel silly too, but I'd still give it a whirl. How many of you role play? How often? And does it give both of you extra, extra, arousal(wouldn't want to miss that!)?

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 8:08pm
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Edited 5/19/2004 8:58 pm ET ET by tiana_rose
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 8:41pm
Eeeks! Where did you send me to!!! I read one of your posts and if this is what role playing is, NO THANKS. You lied to your husband about having a butt plug inside of you because you took it out. He calls you several times a day to check that you are still wearing it. He then came home earlier than expected and you ran upstairs to put it in. He found out and then spanked you...and punish you by giving you anal sex before you were ready! I'm dumbfounded. I was thinking more in the line of Merry Maids or the likes. LOL(I'm so naive sometimes). Thanks, but no thanks. That's too scary for me.

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 8:49pm
Tiana has it a little confused. Yes, what you were thinking is role playing. Tiana and her husband engage in a domination type situation, which is a bit different. In a way it is a role they play, but not really the same thing. Have you looked online for ideas for outfits? You could be a naughty secretary or something, maybe have him pick you up at a bar.

Leticia

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 8:54pm
I'm sorry. That's not typical though. That was a one-time episode and if you remember in my post, I also said we had talked about that and we don't do that any more.
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Registered: 05-19-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:17pm
I am a secretary and he often picks me up at bars(I don't drink and drive). Egads, I've been role playing and didn't even realize it!

p.s. What's with that other lady. She edited her post here and on the taboo board. Why? BTW, thank you.
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:35pm
>>I am a secretary and he often picks me up at bars(I don't drink and drive). Egads, I've been role playing and didn't even realize it!<<

ROFL. Well, you did mention Merry Maids. You could wear a trench coat over the outfit and show up at the front door. When he opens the door, you can start the role playing. When you come in and remove the trench coat, he'll know what's up ;o) You could wear it without panties, so that when you bend over to dust he gets a nice suprise ;o) Anyway, I think you get the idea.

>>p.s. What's with that other lady. She edited her post here and on the taboo board. Why?<<

My guess would be that it's because alot of people have issues with the way she chooses to live, so she's trying to protect herself. Why not just ask her?

Leticia

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Registered: 05-19-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:45pm
I often clean the house wearing only a tank and a thong, and answer the door with something covering it up--and then continue cleaning. Yes, I do get some extra attention. Another role. Thank you again.






Edited 5/19/2004 9:49 pm ET ET by lollipoplover2004

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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 2:44am
My BF and I do some "light" role playing sometimes. For example, when he comes my house to pick me up, I just knock on the car door and tell him that my car broke down and I need a ride. He takes me in and I offer to give him some sexual favor for a ride or something. We ask each other's names and stuff, just pretending to be strangers. It's kinda fun! Enjoy!
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:47am
Role play is exciting, but it isn't for everyone. If you feel you are missing something, just do it. Go to the adult toy store and get some sort of outfit. Nurse, maid, cop, catsuit, or leather, what ever your fancy. Then without saying anything to him, just surprise him. Wear a mask of some sort, preferably an eye mask, and just have fun with it. If he enjoys it, great, if not, oh well, take it off and carry on with something else. I have had fun with it, and I have not, it depends on my mood, the role being played, and the basic mood of the situation. Are you normally aggressive, or passive? Are you domminant or subordinate? Try a role that is opposite of your norm. Then try one that is the same. Dom is a cop. Sub is a maid. The others are varied, and offer some variety in and of themselves. There are lots of rolls you can play, and the only way to find out if you like it is to try it. Good luck, have fun, and everything will be all good. LOL
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Registered: 05-20-2004
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 12:16pm
My hubby is the same as yours. All I have to do is lick the side of his face, no matter what I'm wearing, and he's putty. I'm always taunting and teasing him in whatever 'face' I happen to be wearing at the time. One time I was painting the ceilings when he came home. I was on a ladder and my 'you know what' was eye level with him, and um, I'll just say it was delightful. Life itself makes for interesting role playing. Now if I were a couch potato, that might get boring, but I'm active and wear many faces naturally. Glad he loves them all, because I love all of his.

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