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sex with a younger man
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:43am |
I am 48 and recently single. One month ago I started dating a much younger man (28) and have never had so much enjoyable sex. During my marriage the sex was OK, but with this guy we have sex two and three times a day. Although he is exhausting, I must admit I look forward to each and every minute. The sex not only lasts for long periods of time, but because his penis is much larger than my x-hubby, I find myself having mutliple orgasms in positions I never even enjoyed before. I sometimes feel a bit guilty about his age, but within a few short minutes in the sack and I forget about all that! Has anyone else had a similar experience.

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Don't give him all the credit for your pleasure. Revel in it and give credit where credit is due. You've come into your own.
Have fun!
enjoy!
honey
However, my experience has been that women become much less focused on their partner's pleasure as they age and more on their own. I've been with the same man for 28 years and I enjoy sex much more now than I ever did in my 20's. Not necessarily because HE learned all that much more about my body and sexuality but because I began to ask for what pleases ME! I took control of my own pleasure.
I think women become more like men in their desire and men become more like women in that they are less orgasm-focused as they age. My grandmother confirmed this and so did my mother and her sisters and none of them were married to younger men.
It has less to do with the age of the lover or spouse and more to do than with self awareness. You can be with the most proficient lover in the world and still not be happy IF you can't accept pleasure and ask for what you want.
Yes, definitely, knowledge is part of the equation but so is self acceptance and a sense of entitlement to pleasure. And for the record, women have ALWAYS been in control of sex...when and IF it takes place has always been the woman's call.
Edited 5/21/2004 12:02 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
...is it possible that she's enjoying 'herself' more with this particular guy because he is, by any chance, displaying that he "wants" her...compared to her ex which she may not have felt that way before? Shy, is that a possibility?
Not just his physical features and her psyche of 'coming into her own' and all, but also "the way he himself" shows her his interest by the way he handles her or grabs her or does things or even that gaze itself.
I'm just curious, cause I've read posts that actually claim that on other message boards, so I'm just wonderin.
:)
C H A R A C T E R
so i suppose some guys can be very skilled in their 20's...my husband was i remember (after i trained him my way that is LOL)...and maybe this young stud is partly the reason this poster is having a thrilling time.... but i can't imagine it has anything to do with experimenting sexually as teens or that younger guys are more "talented" or more eager to learn nowadays....men have always known that the key to hot sex is to inspire a hot woman...i can't recall one lover who didn't know that basic fact, its "sex 101" in my view.
honey
Edited 5/20/2004 5:25 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Only thing that makes sense to me is if she's never been satisfied like this before, then this guy is clearly more satisfying than anything before, 'including' those prior relationships ...otherwise, why use the term "like NEVER before"?
Since this guy is satisfying her 'like her husband never has' anyway, then I'm kinda led, as humbly as I can state this since I'm no expert, to believe that this GUY must have something or is doing something different.
She really should give herself credit as well, but I still think there is something about THIS guy anyway, even if its simply the way he holds her or grabs her or even if it really is his physical features, that actually does contribute to driving her like "NEVER before."
I was just wondering if it was his "style" or something since the tone of the replies seemed to downplay his physical features somewhat, that's all.
Make sense?
:)
C H A R A C T E R
She IS at a different point in her life and THAT alone could make all the difference in the world!
My bet is that she will likely continue to enjoy sex, with THIS guy or any other partner she really desires, regardless of the size of the equipment he's packing, IMO.
But whatever the reason (or combination of reasons), I'm glad to hear that she's finally getting made love to properly! LOL!
Edited 5/20/2004 9:37 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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