C-Ring : Question for the Men
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C-Ring : Question for the Men
| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:58am |
I have been dating my SO for 5 1/2 years. Sex is not an issue. However, TOYS ARE!!! I can do without toys however, I feel compelled to keep the passion alive, and so I recently went adult toy shopping.
During oral sex, I introduced a penis ring to him, and asked him to wear it. IT WAS LIVID. He took the ring out of my fingers and through it clear across the bedroom. Then he went on to say "I don't need that ... " I explained to him that I had not bought the ring to enhance his size rather I bought it because it had a cute French tickler surrounding it. The toy was meant for both of us!
In the past we have used other toys but for some reason the ring offended his masculinity as it was to be placed directly on him and NOT me. I felt horrible.
What did I do wrong? Should I have discussed it with him before buying it? Since when are c**k rings offensive? Geesh!

Hubby and I have been married for 28 years. The passion and fire are still lit. Never once have we use toys, role playing, other persons, etc. to keep it ignited. Passion is borne out of love, not by superficial means.
Anyhow. Never had one of those thangs on BUT I was really really surprised when a totally normal, genteel, above-board lass brought it up once! ... I guess one of her exes had regularly been thusly equipped. I thought they were strictly seen in, e.g., gay bars and S&M dungeons! I'm also positive I read somewhere that they are not at all healthy for one's penis because they trap the blood or something ... heck, what do I know. At the very least, I can't imagine they're terribly comfy -- don't they go on so that they wrap around your balls or whatever?! Yikes, I'd feel like a rodeo bull!
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Does he really know how YOU feel about it and 'why' you got it?! You sure?? Also, why doesn't he make sure that you know how he feels about it? Ahem, yes that would include 'why' he feels that way. THIS communication, no matter how self-revealing it is, is part of the reason we couples are together, IMHO, and its time for him to step up to the plate and show you that he does trust you enough to reveal what his problem is...no matter how well we online here can guess it for you. Right?
I'd also make sure he knows that you do NOT know anymore whether or not its okay to introduce something new or even ask about it. You don't know what his reaction will be unless he's willing to tell you or talk to you about it as opposed to "that is acceptable or unacceptable." No relationship does well with these guessing games and its just not that good to "hide" your feelings about something from your partner either, ESPECIALLY when it involves the BOTH of you...ahem...in this case, SEX! ;)
If you feel more comfortable asking "us" than you do "him" about what "his" problem is, then do what my wifey does whenever I pulled that and just...uh...can't type that or Julie would delete this. LOL!!! Sooooo...good luck. There. ;}
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I've used one with the vibrating bullet inside a sleeve mounted on the ring before. That was just magic - for want of a better word, for both of us. Perhaps you could discuss it and try one of those? It's quite obviously designed to stimulate a woman so he may not be as upset by that idea.