no desire to have sex w/ him

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Registered: 01-21-2004
no desire to have sex w/ him
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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 3:42pm
My relationship has been on the rocks for along time now, and I have choosen to stay in an unfulfilling relationship, because I felt , like I was in love w/ him , although we hardley ever talk when we do we misunderstand one another.... and it leads to some stupid arguement, all and all....even though we grew apart...the sex just kept getting better, and hotter...and I wanted him all the time, he just turned me on by touching me...well, I think I finally had enough of him not treating me like a boyfriend should treat a girlfriend, I dont really know what else it could be but the last couple times we had sex, I hated it and even had a hard time faking it, I just wanted it over, He really just dosnt do it for me anymore, I hope this means Im finally getting over him?..Because I have stayed for 2 years to long, always Knowing he didnt treat me right, or special, or treat me at all, ( I know better than this, but I just had these butterfly feelings about him sinse we first went out)I was crazy for him, enough to let my self be miserable, starving for his attention, and I always desired him til now, I have no sexual feelings at all for him... I guess Im asking for someones two cents..... while I announce that Im finally leaving this man!
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Registered: 04-21-2004
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 5:11pm
My two cents on the subject is that if you do not feel anything for this man at all anymore...you should call it quits...no point in wasting your time where someone out there might be worthy of your time.

I know if there was nothing left at all not even converstation it is over.

Christi

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 6:02pm
It sounds as if the relationship was over a long time before the sexual feelings finally dwindled down.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 8:37pm
Please forgive me for being so plain, but I don't think you need anyone's two cents to realize whether or not you're in love. If you're not in love, AND you're not married to this guy, then 'regardless' the sexual relationship, isn't time to move on?

If you were married, I PROMISE you I'd advocate counseling, and anyone here with 'here we go again' syndrome (LOL!) will testify to that! If you think you want to stay with this guy because you wish you had back the guy he was in the past, then I guess I just wouldn't give up on him if I were you. OTHERWISE, if you're unable to find out what caused the change in him and don't believe you'll get that love treatment back outta him like you use to, then I gotta say move on.

Note: the change I notice in my wife every now and then was, to my surprise, her reaction to MY change, whether it was MY attitude or MY this or MY that. Maybe he'd soften up a bit and be more open for talk if you lowered your defenses a little and trusted him with a sincere "Dear, have I been doing something wrong lately?...cause I just don't feel we're like we use to be." Just a sample of what Mrs. Para & I went through a couple times.

If you're leaning toward leaving anyway, then what's it gonna hurt to learn from what happened?

Good luck.

hubby para

 

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