Oral Sex Question

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Oral Sex Question
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:06pm
Im kinda new to giving oral to my hubby. I also have a pretty bad gag reflex. I know he would really enjoy me taking more of him into my mouth and I would really love doing that for him. Ive seen ppls posts on stuff you can by to numb the back of your throat but my question is if a product numbs your throat or mouth wouldnt it numb him too and take some of the feeling away from his penis?
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:19pm
Don't use anything to numb your throat! How can you tell if you're causing damage if you feel no pain? Better than that "solution" why not lube up your hand and place it around the base of his erection and then take in as much as you can. He really won't be able to tell the difference since your warm hand will FEEL like your warm mouth to him.

I just don't agree with suggesting these numbing agents for anal or oral sex because we experience pain for a reason! When a sex act is uncomfortable, unpleasant, or painful to engage in, then rethink it and find a way to make it more mutually pleasurable, if possible. Or don't engage in it. What's the point otherwise?


Edited 5/24/2004 6:21 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:26pm
So many ppl here have been talking about these numbing agents and I thought if it helped I would give it a try but it didnt seem very "natural" to me either. I do use my hand as well while giving oral and he has never complained. We talk about sex often and very openly (likes.dislikes,etc.) I just wanted info on how this couldnt possibly numb him as well and I would still have to think it would. I definitely dont think I would consider using one of these products. Thanks for the advice.
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 7:01pm
i agree with Kat. down with the numbing agents and add the use of your hand at the base. it works very well. you can even add a screwing-rotational motion to your hand technique that many men like. when you start out, lick the shaft and try to use ample saliva so it's not too dry when you add the hand. the motion should just be an extension of your mouth. as you become more comfortable and confident with oral you will feel more relaxed about the whole thing and likely be able to take more of your hubby in (personally i think the hand-mouth combo works better).
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Thu, 05-27-2004 - 7:52am
Buy a bannana about the size of your man's penis. Peel the bananna; practice "taking" the bannana as you do your man's penis. In that way, you can slowly learn to take more of him. Good luck, mac

 

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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 11:56pm
LOL, if the product is in your mouth and CAN affect the skin yes it could. To help not taking a lot of him have you ever tried candy or something, it's what helped me. I like to use stuff like ALtoids or cough drops. They affect him too, and never had a negative reaction out of it either. Most men I know prefer mint in the Altoids but I do know a few who like the cinnamon, they cause either a burning or a cooling sensation, they can also be used on females ;)
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Sun, 06-20-2004 - 3:12pm
Many women have the same problem you are having. I read somewhere that if you circle the base of the penis inbetween your thumb and index finger (like making the ok sign) and lift it up in your mouth it helps control the gag reflex. The more oral sex you have with your hubby, the more of him you will be able to take into your mouth. Just remember practice makes perfect! :)
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Sun, 06-20-2004 - 4:58pm
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 3:12pm
Tish, I have something to ad to that statement. Also, the skin in that area on a woman is much more sensative to that sort of thing. My SO had a very strong burning sensation from using an oral care strip there. So, I am rather reluctant to use anything like mints or lifesavers. LOL Just from my experience. I am sure there are women out there that probably love those care strips. LOL