OK, fellow men...double dare ya!

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OK, fellow men...double dare ya!
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 7:47am
A recent thread has women debating whether they ever find other women sexually arousing, whether in real life or erotica (what most call porno). While there's room for debate, it seems a lot do find some sexual pleasure in viewing other women.

OK, guys, how about you and men? Have you ever looked at an erotic movie, or photos, and admired an erect penis? Have you ever felt even a little sexual surge marveling at the erotic power of an erection...or even more so, an ejaculation? I'm not asking if you wanted to have sex with the guy, just if a male body has ever given you a little sexual pleasure.

My personal answer is yes. When I'm in the right mood, a penis can be a powerful sexual image, even for me as a male. Ultimately the goal is still to use that image on a female, but by itself it can help with arousal to a point. By the way, I consider myself hetero.

This ought to be a short thread.

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 8:36am
Yeah. I don't know if your question really addresses what the women were talking about. I thought that they were talking about a woman finding the idea of making love to a woman attractive.

If that's the case, then No. I don't find the idea of making love to a man attractive. I can recognise and appreciate a handsome male and an attractive male body(parts). But I don't find men particularly attractive and it doesn't arouse me. Having said that, I have wondered what it might be like to fellate a penis to, ummm..., completion and the idea has intrigued me. I couldn't really say I've been aroused by it and you can bet your last dollar that I won't be rushing down to the YMCA anytime soon.

As far as viewing a man's penis and the like? Yes, I've admired an erect penis and even admired and been turned on by an ejeculating penis. But that relates more to the idea of what the penis is doing to the woman rather than the penis or the man behind it. For example, I have absolutely zero interest in seeing an erect or ejeculating penis in the context of gay sex.

Oh, BTW, since you made note of it; I'm hetero and have never had a homosexual experience of any kind either.

See your double-dare and raise you another dare ;-)

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 9:12am
Good point. Gay erotica does nothing for me. Take the same photo of an erection, label it gay, and I react totally different to it than if I thought it was hetero. My response is like yours. The arousal, if any, is related to thinking what that thing could be doing with a woman.

Thanks for your feedback. I think men get a lot more squeamish talking about stuff like this than women do.

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 9:20am
Thanks guys! That's exactly the way I feel about watching two women having sex.
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 9:20am

Good question mancreature.


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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 11:52am
Hi guys,

I'm a girl, but I have "doubts" related to this subject...

It is normal to a guy to feel pleasure in the area between the anus and the penis, right? There is no shame to it, or disgrace by suddenly thinking they're gay, right?

I think men can feel very excited in those parts because there is a woman doing that, and not particularly thinking just because they like it, they can be homos, am I wrong?

It's just that I have a friend that is facing those thoughts, he likes his wife to rub him in the anus area, and now he's mixed up, and very curious about anal sex. He has even went to web chats and ask about gay sexual experiences, and confessed to me that all that talk was turning him on? I really don't know what to tell him...

Could you please comment on this?

THANKS VERY MUCH

Hugs and kisses from dibi

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:09pm
Very brave of you mancreature. And very honest. However, while I can certainly appreciate the beauty of and relate to the sexual activity between two women and to what they're experiencing as women, just looking at naked women does nothing for me, sexually. Neither does looking at a naked man either, with or without an erection. I need more than just visuals to stimulate my libido and always have.
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:19pm
not sure if it's the men i pick for partners or that i am pretty open and non-judgmental so people reveal things to me (or both), but of the 25 male partners i have had, about 1/3 have revealed that they have either been with a man before or fantasized about being with one. most also said they considered themselves straight and were just curious.
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:31pm
I'd rather just be with my man, however I do find watching two women (on screen) arousing. I've been with a woman (mainly her doing things to me though) and I don't know if I was all that aroused with actually being so close to a woman like that. I was and yet there was so much aprehensiveness on my part, it was hard to tell. It was really hard for me to completely relax - although after we had a few drinks, I did. But I think, all in all, I'd rather just watch the occasional woman on woman video. We don't even watch many porn movies at all. Ultimately, I just want to be with my hubby. It was sensual having a woman kiss and touch my breasts - it was. When I did it to her though, it just kinda felt nice, but strange. I think to do it again, I'd have to be pretty tipsy and incredibly horny - or something, lol. That's just my spin on it, from what I experienced. My hubby, on the other hand, absolutely LOVED watching us - but that's a man for you.
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Thu, 05-27-2004 - 2:26am
>>I think men get a lot more squeamish talking about stuff like this than women do.<<

I think that the social conditioning and consequences of admitting an interest in male anatomy are more serious for guys.

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Thu, 05-27-2004 - 2:32am
dibi

In reply to your questions;

There is nothing wrong with a guy enjoying stimulation in that area. It's a relatively well known erogenous zone for men and has nothing to do with enjoying either anal sex or being gay. Tell him to enjoy it and stop worrying that it's near his anus. His anus is a whole different department! :-)

Having said that, enjoying stimulation of that area and wondering about anal play with a woman is a whole lot different from looking at gay websites, chatrooms and being aroused by homosexuals chatting to one another. Maybe he is bisexual or gay? Maybe he is just "bi-curious" and might like to try it before deciding that he is heterosexual? He's the only one that can make that call though. Only he knows what is going on inside his head and can make a decision based on that.

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