Cum Again?(m) lol..;)

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Cum Again?(m) lol..;)
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:43pm


My guy and I have been sexually active for a year.

At first, i could make him cum easy. Now, it seems that

i have problems helping. I'm a little shy in the

bedroom. I've only been sexual this past few years

and I've only been with three people. One in which, of

course, is my current man. He has to help me "finish him

off". And it upsets me. It seems like when we're both into

and are horny it comes easy. So, to speak. lol. Btw- we're

adults. I'm 23 and he's 21. I am a recent nonvirgin. i guess

is what u could call me. Any ideas? Suggestions.

Ps. Not to brag, but he's pretty well endowed. And i have a

small mouth and plus, I have tmj. So, my mouth gets sore just

after a few minutes of oral sex. What should i do? excersize my

mouth? please, help. He has no problem helping me cum. I get

exicted the second he touches me with his little buddy. How can

i become less shy and help him? he likes it playful and rough and

very fast. doesn't every guy though. ;)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 4:05pm
Okay, so we know how HE likes it now but what about you? Don't YOU have any preferences?

Sex is supposed to be about mutual pleasure and sharing ideas and likes and dislikes. Even though you may orgasm easily, you do need to share your desires with him.

The best way to get better at anything, though, including this, is through practice and good communication....BUT his orgasm is HIS responsibility. IF he wants you to help him in any way, then he should ask you. Don't assume he needs your help though. You can make the problem worse by making it a big deal. Anxiety and pressure = orgasm or erectile dysfunction for most men.

It's possible that he still masturbates a lot and is causing his own problem. Sometimes, men train themselves to respond to their own manual stimulation and require fast and somewhat rough handling to orgasm. IF he wants to make love to you, then he needs to be more flexible to meet your needs as well.

The bottom line is that you'll need to let him work this out and be willing to help him if he asks. But let him handle it.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 3:05am
A lot of guys find it difficult to orgasm from oral sex. Many take a long time - like more than 15 minutes. It's normal. Don't get worried about it. Do what you can with him and get him to help you like he's been doing, or move on to something else like intercourse. It's not going to kill him just because he can't cum quickly from oral sex.

Sex is about both people having fun and if you're getting stressed out because you can't make him cum from oral sex then it's not fun any more.

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Registered: 05-09-2003
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 7:44am
Just be patient. It takes me much longer to come from BJs than from sex.

If you both really like finishing from a BJ, give him a handjob (and save your jaw) while talking dirty to him, then when he's getting near the end, start in with the BJ.

Or even have sex now that you're doing that and at the end, hop off and finish him with a BJ -- he'll love that!