wanted to know about anal sex

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Registered: 05-25-2004
wanted to know about anal sex
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 6:56pm
I want to try anal sex. How do i talk to by husband about this? I know a lot about it, but i want to know how messy it is for the guy? any insights about anal sex would be greatly accepted.

thanks, jaime
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 11:56am
That depends on whether you do anything beforehand. IF you use a laxative or something to cleanse yourself and whether he uses a condom, which I would recommend for his protection against bacteria. But even though my DH and I don't indulge ourselves, many people here claim that it's not that messy. I'm not so sure. But hey, if he's squeamish about trying it, then the condom should be the answer.
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 12:00pm
I have only had one messy experience with anal sex, and it really wasn't that bad. Talk to him about it??? Well, does he show any interest in it?? Do you know if he is, or isn't??? If he is, just tell him one night while you are havig sex that you want him to do it, as graphically as you like or are comfortable with. You know (blank) my whatever, or ask him before hand, it is your choice there, as I do not know your SO. My SO just brought it up again after not doing it for a very long time. She loved it, but once she got pregnant with second child, she started hurting to much from it, and so it has been a while. She asked me the other day about if I wanted to try it again. Just out of the blue, and without provocation. So, it is all up to you, and I know that doesn't help to much, but it is what I think. LOL
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Thu, 05-27-2004 - 12:11pm
Well, I don't know how he feels about anal sex. Is there anyway I can bring it up that both of us won't be embarrassed?? What do I say if he says no?
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 12:16pm
Bringing it up is the easy part. Just ask!!!! If he says no, well, then I guess it will be no then, and all you can really say there is O.K. No worries.
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 3:35pm
Like everyone said, just ask. Say you would like to try it once. Yo can assure him it is not messy. My wife and I have anal once a month on average during her period and we have never had any mess. We do not use condoms but we do use a ton od KY...I guess that could be considered messy. If he refuses you could buy a butt plug and stimulate yourself or have him use it on you.