Can you get pregnant from doing this ?!

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Can you get pregnant from doing this ?!
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:43am
Hi me and my guy had dry sex, and he came in his pants, and his come was wet through his pants, while i was on top of him (i only had my underwear on) and i felt his cum on the side of my bikini line (that's how i knew that it went through coz he thought it didn't go thru his pants at first), and i also realised a damp patch on the top right hand corner of my underwear. However it did not go anywhere near my vagina, not that i know of anyway. Is there a chance that i could get pregnant from that ?
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 10:03am
Wow!...that didn't sound like it was 'dry' after all, lol. ;)

Okay, I am WAAAY not an expert on this, but I'd be surprised to see a post around here claiming that someone was. However, I DO have a thought though...

...I personally think one of the HUGEST risks that people take, especially women, is the risk of NOT consulting their physicians with questions like these....or other questions regarding sex topics at all for that matter.

I read a question JUST LIKE yours on a male message board last week, believe it or not, and we all agreed on the same thing: No matter what we say online here and no matter how simple an answer may be, TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR. Even if what we say makes so much sense, GET to that doctor anyway. There should never be an excuse not to when being curious about something this serious; embarrassment is not an excuse either.

Hey, good luck to you

 

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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 12:34pm
No, you can't get pregnant through your clothes, even if his semen leaked through his pants.

But you really don't have to be penetrated or get the semen anywhere near your vagina, when you're both nude, to conceive. A warm, moist vulva provides a great starting point for sperm to start it's journey. Many women have gotten pregnant just "fooling around."

If you decide to fool around totally nude in the future, have him put on a condom as soon as he's fully erect. Pre-ejaculate contains enough active sperm to impregnate you and it only takes one.

Play safe and play smart.

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 2:35pm
Actually you can give your BF a hand job when you are both naked and not worry about getting pregnant as long as he keeps it away from your vagina. Rule of thumb make sure he is at your belly button or higher when he cums. Then use a towel to wipe off and don't get the towel or seman near your vagina. People who say they got pregnant from just fooling around are not telling the whole story. At some point the guy "put it in, just for a minute". Thats all it takes. But sperm cannot swim across your stomach to your vagina! The air would kill them by the time they even got close.
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:22pm
Sorry bubba, but your solution is a little too much like Russian roulette, isn't it? I mean,it's very hard to control where a shooting spray of semen lands or drips!

And you're mistaken. Yes, the chances of conception are lessened without penetration however, there ARE documented cases of pregnancy occuring when the semen is deposited on or near the vulva. Why take the risk at all though when a condom will take care of most of the worry?

And sorry, air doesn't kill sperm, but lack of moisture will so a warm moist vulva can provide everything sperm needs to begin the long journey. Whether it's deposited there accidently by hand or through harmless "fooling around" it CAN lead to an unhappy surprise.


Edited 5/28/2004 9:28 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 10:01pm


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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 11:51pm
Thanx so much for everyone's reply and posting.

I'm 18, and coming from an asian family background, my mum talks to me abt sex, but not much abt pregnancy, as she believes there isn't a need to talk abt that with me until i get married. and if i keep asking her q's abt pregnancy she'll start getting suspicious. according to our beliefs you don't have sex until you're married. i am still a virgin and plan on staying that way until i find the right guy and marry him. Sex is a special thing and i wouldn't just give away my virginity like that. My guy understands that, which is why we have dry sex. and it is true that my understanding of the risks of pregnancy and sex in general is not very clear. I tried ringing up family planning in my state, but they're closed on the w/ends.

I posted on another discussion message board, and someone said that once sperm gets in contact with oxygen there is no way that you can get pregnant from that. and this was coming from a person who studies it! So i dunno what to think ?!

I appreciate all the postings made on my discussion. I've been worried abt getting pregnant twice already, and believe me, i hate going through all that worrying again. it is painful and emotionally straining! Last time it was coz my guy got precum near my vagina and i was stressed abt that, so i took a home pregnancy test twice and it was negative. but then my period was late so i stressed abt that accuracy and reliability of the test, but finally my period came, and i realised it was only coz i was stressing so much which made it late. which i had hoped it would be.

Anyway, i am not ready to have a baby atm. I believe in the traditional upbringing of a family and raising children after you are married. That's just my opinion and belief, i know some of u's dont' have the same opinion and i respect that.

Well, take care, and thank-you so much for your input and comments.

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Sat, 05-29-2004 - 9:44am

If you are really worried about pregnancy, be safe and have him wear a condom even if you are not participating in intercouse.


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