Is having cybersex with someone other...

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Is having cybersex with someone other...
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 1:47pm

Is having cybersex with someone other than your partner cheating.



  • Yes
  • No


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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 6:00pm
It would be cheating if you are lying to your S/O about it, or you are doing it knowing full well that it is something that would upset them. It is also cheating if you know that your intentions are truly to find someone to go further than 'just cybersex' with. It could perhaps also be considered cheating if you are doing it so often in combination with masturbation that is is affecting your 'real' sex life and depriving your S/O of being the one you have sex with... or that you find cybersex more desireable than 'real sex' (which would probably mean there's other problems as well)

If your S/O is aware of it, isn't bothered by it - and it is not affecting your 'real' sex life, then No - I don't think it would be considered cheating.

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anonymous user
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 6:29pm
Sex of any kind with someone other than your partner is cheating. Whether its sexual contact,oral,intercourse,cyber,kissing,even phone sex.

I also think holding hands and things of that nature are forms of cheating. There are no reasons for inappropriate contact,talking or typing for this matter with anyone other than your partner.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 6:59pm
Someone on this board once defined cheating as "Doing, saying or acting in a way that you wouldn't do, say, or act in front of your partner."

It really is the best definition because every couple has is own set of "rules."

Some people do threesomes, which isn't cheating because the other party knows and is willingly participating. I would sit in a guy friend's lap at a bar, in front of my fiance or behind his back. He wouldn't care. But, other couples may consider that inappropriate touching.

So its really up to each couple to define things like that. I answered yes on the survey because I think typically its behind the person's back. If the other person knew and didn't care, then I'd say no its not cheating (its being permitted.)

Sara

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:54pm
Yes it is cheating. There are all kinds of cheating. Physical, emotional, mental. If you're in a relationship and you're doing something of this sort wheather they know about it or not its still cheating. Its a disrespect to the other person and to yourself as well. It amazes me how many people truly believe that if the other person knows that its not considerd cheating. It is. Last but not least, wheather the other person knows about it or not, there's another person besides yourself that knows and that is the Lord above. What do you think he'd have to say about it?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:35pm

I agree with Gossip on this, it depends on the people involved and what their definition of cheating is.


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