Is This Normal??? Can Women Do This???

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Is This Normal??? Can Women Do This???
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 3:08pm
My BF has this vibrating back massager that he uses on me during sex. This thing is awesome. I usually have to make him stop becuase it feels to good. He keeps telling me to just go with it and let him show me what the "ultimate pleasure" is. I "borrowed" it from his house and have been using it on my own. I wanted to practice to try and keep from pushing away when it feels to good. (ok, and I just love the thing) The other night while I was using it, I made myself keep it where it was when it was starting to feel to good. I was there, eyes watering with tears running down my cheeks, it was starting burn (not in a bad way, but a good way) all the way down to my right foot. It was amazing, then it happened. I knew I was really wet (the thing usually dries me out no matter how good it feels) then I "gushed". It was like my water breaking. I thought I had peed on myself. It felt so good though, better than I have ever have.

The next day I was curious as to if I had infact peed, or what it was. (I know this sounds gross) I smelled my sheets and the sleeper shirt I had been wearing, and it was not urine. My question is, what was this???

I am 28 years old, was married for 10 years and have been with my BF for a year. I am not new to sex, but I have never experianced anything like that before. Is this normal??? What was it???

Thank you.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 3:12pm
I think you have just experienced your first female ejaculation. It is not all that rare but at the same time it is not common either.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 3:15pm
Sounds like female ejaculation to me.

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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 3:38pm
Ejaculation is something that all women can potentially do.

The reason is simple, kind of.

As a fertilized egg grows into a foetus, it passes through a series of stages of growth. In the early stages of building human embryos, both male and female embryos are the same they are not differentiated by any sexual signs. This stage continues until the male embryo releases its own hormones into its body, at which time the embryo starts to develop different sexual apparati from the basic female form. If no new hormones are circulated, then the embryo develops into a girl; thus, the female type is the embryological default. This spurt of embryonic hormones occurs after week 8 of gestation; until then, the female and male embryos are indistinguishable except at the level of chromosomes.

The tissues involved in orgasm in males and females are very similar. These include: nerve tissues involved in sensing stimulation and excitement; erectile tissues, i.e., sponge-like tissues that can become engorged with blood and stretched during sexual excitement; and muscle fibres, which are distributed in various locations in the pelvic floor of both sexes and are involved in orgasmic contractions. These tissues are related to the sexual organs, especially to the penis in males and the clitoris in females. It is crucial to note that the penis and the clitoris are the “same” organ in men and women; there is an organ in the primordial, undifferentiated embryo that turns into a penis if it receives a dose of hormones, otherwise it matures into a clitoris.

In other words, the penis and the clitoris have the same embryological origins and are thus called “homologous” organs. Similarly, it is believed that the nervous and erectile tissues involved in orgasm in both sexes arose from a common embryological source. (While this is certainly the most sensible and parsimonious interpretation of the situation, it has not actually been shown, to my knowledge, that the tissues in question have the exact same embryological origin in the way that the clitoris and penis do.

All foetuses have the basic ejaculatory systems in place before sexual determination, so because men can ejaculate, so potentially can women.

This is also why men have nipples.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 3:45pm
interesting. glad to have you on board. i always wondered about men and nipples. now i know.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 4:22pm
ROFL
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 12:47am
Female ejaculate originates in the Skene's Glands, which are the female equivalent of the male Prostate Gland......The difference in the resulting emissions being that the testes are connected to the Prostate, and add sperm to the mixture.

Another difference is that females can have multiple ejaculations, just as they can have multiple orgasms!

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Sat, 05-29-2004 - 4:39pm
Prepubescent boys can experience multiple orgasms with ease, and that can be achieved in adult males if the man learns how to orgasm without ejaculation, and then later he can learn how to have multiple ejaculations once he has mastered the technique.

Multiple orgasms and ejaculations are potentially possible for everyone; it just takes practice, self awareness and self control.

I am a man and have experienced both multiple orgasms and multiple ejaculations, I will add that it is hard though, as the sensation of ejaculation is so good that it is hard to want to control it, and to be honest, not needed as the first is more than enough.

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 6:45pm
My husband has multiples all the time, but it usually occurs after we've skipped a few days of sex. When we first started dating, though, he used have multiples like clock work.

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 7:10pm
Congratulations you've just had your first ejaculation! Most of the time you need direct stimulation of the G spot but that Vibe must be hitting you right where you need it. I didn't have my first (I think) until my 40's. They get easier the more you do it and wow are they fantastic. Keep up whatever your doing and if you feel you can, show you BF how as well!

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 11:24pm
My SO 'Squirts' a little upon orgasm from oral stimulation. But when she's "On Top",

....WOW...! I'm all wet, sheets are wet, delightful. As far as multiples go, I cannot do that without a refractory period of an hour or so. SO can have multiples too. However, when she has an orgasm that results in an ejaculation, that's usually the end for her, for an hour or so. We usually slip off to sleep after that tho

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