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Ever feel like this????
| Fri, 05-28-2004 - 11:19pm |
I always thought that the older I got, the less impulsive and more mature I would become, and in most cases that is very true. However, as of late something keeps getting worse. Let me clarify: I met a man online not long ago, and although I don't know him at all (just what he has told me), I find my self fascinated with him. He says he lives within easy driving distance of me, but that is all I know right now. Now, I know all about people not being whom they seem online (I haven't even seen a pic of this guy) and the dangers that can be involved; but that is not what is concerning me here. What is getting scary to me is how driven I am becoming. Last night, when I read his e-mail, I felt like hopping in my car and driving all night just to get to him! It is a terrible burning desire, worse than physical stuff like hunger, thirst, etc. Does this get worse as you age? I feel like my libido is getting more unruly the older I get! I thought this "teenage lust" would mellow out (I'm 34 but sometimes I feel like 16!) once I got out of college. I just wanted to go find this man and leap on him like a horny dog (pardon the analogy!)! In these situtions (I have done it with guys in person as well - in thought, not deed) I feel that I almost can't help myself, like one day I'll get busted for sexual harrassment or something!
Does anyone (esp females) ever feel like this? BTW, masturbation does little to curb the feelings - like having a packet of airline peanuts when you are really starving and could eat the proverbial horse! Can anyone relate?
Schrecken
"Never fear, Underdog is here!"
Does anyone (esp females) ever feel like this? BTW, masturbation does little to curb the feelings - like having a packet of airline peanuts when you are really starving and could eat the proverbial horse! Can anyone relate?
Schrecken
"Never fear, Underdog is here!"

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You have already indicated you know the danger in what you are thinking. It is a warning. Most of us have feelings, at different times, of really wanting some wild sex really bad. Hook up with someone you trust, they are out there, and they want the same thing you do. Be careful!
Edited 5/29/2004 11:27 am ET ET by txguy2004
Edited 5/29/2004 11:29 am ET ET by txguy2004
Schrecken, people do have sexual desires, that is completely normal and we all want our desires fulfilled no matter what age we are.
Everyone feels lustful at times though but it's usually because their needs aren't being met at home.
I have to agree with the other posters in saying, BE CAREFUL if you do meet this man. Pick a public place to meet and make sure someone you trust knows where you are just in case. While I did meet my husband online, I still believe caution is the right avenue.
As far as your sexual drive, on top of what everyone else has said, I have read several times that as you get older your libido rises. I heard that between your 30's and 40's is when women are at their sexual prime while men are in their 20's. This may all be statistical but maybe that is what is happening to you.
Hope this helps.
Until you see reality, (ie, getting in the car and actually meeting him) then, you will be swept off your feet. Unfortunately, the longer you go without meeting him, the more perfect he will become, and the more bigger your bubble will burst after you actually meet him.
That is just the reality. Ever notice the high of a relationsip when it first starts? Well, this is that, but worse.
I have read many of your posts in the past. In my opinion, you need to throw your computer in the dumpster, open your front door, go outside and live life. I don't understand why you aren't meeting people (men) and interacting with them in your real life? I truly think the best thing you could do for yourself would be to turn off your computer and find some real interests and hobbies that would allow you to interact face to face with other people. Exercise, book clubs, the gym, wqrk, volunteer orgs, team sports, church singles groups.
Don't be so sad and lonely that you are sucked in by sicko sex meetings (as you posted about on Taboos) and random strangers online who would like to get together to have sex. What about having a real friendship/possible relationship with a real person?
Stop thinking about SEX and start thinking about the person you want to be. Once you are on that path to being the best "you", someone will come along.
Sara
Great ideas Sara.
I fully agree that meeting people in the 'real world' is preferable to the net; however (I don't mean to be smart here), what is one to do when those of the opposite sex show no romantic interest at all?
Tish,
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Whoa.........RED FLAG.......sorry schrecken, but performing intimate "medical exams" to
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