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My Life is Like a Levitra Commercial
| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 12:12pm |
It's all about quality, and we have plently of quality. My man just can't wipe that smile off his face. Neither can I. Life is like the best romance novel. Like it's supposed to be. Two beautiful people in a committed monogamous relationship who just can't keep their hands off each other. And we can't contain our joy. We have to let everyone know how delighted we are.

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Hi Ivlearned,
Leticia
Thanks!
My parents enjoyed a wonderfully healthy sex life. My mother told me this after my dad died. They enjoyed one another every other night for 25 yrs. But we got married in the late 70's when people were as cynical and negative about marital sex as they are now!
For us, something as simple as taking a sexual break from one another can renew those feelings again but slumps are totally normal and we both had them.
It's not always necessary to DO anything to get things back on track either. Time can take care of many issues that aren't seriously endangering the marriage. My DH and I are both great believers in giving your partner space when needed. That alone can work wonders. As well as just going back to the basics. "Date" your partner, surprise them with thoughtful little gestures or ideas. Everyone loves to be remembered and appreciated.
But there have been times in our marriage, that my DH and I felt like roommates, for various external reasons, and there have been times when we felt like honeymooners again. The thing is, that's ALL normal and to be expected.
People just don't have realistic expectations of marital sex anymore nor do they seem to remember that love matures, deepens and changes. We aren't supposed to be in a prolonged state of arousal and lust for one another. How can you get anything else done?
Our point of view is that sex is a wonderful gift we give one another but it's only ONE part of our life together, not the whole package. The foundation for us is trust, respect and friendship, not lust.
We try to keep a balanced perspective about the big picture. Don't make sex THE single health barometer of your relationship because we've found that sometimes you are emotionally closer when you aren't even having sex!
And as my dear old dad used to say about marriage, "if you tend the garden regularly and lovingly, you won't have to deal with the weeds."
Edited 6/2/2004 5:52 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Like Kat, in 26 years we've had many outside influences that we've had to battle and came through them slightly scathed. What kept us together was the love, respect, and trust, not lust. Lust was always there waiting for us whenever the dust cleared. It's never waivered in strength from the first time we've been together, it's simply a result not a cause. I find that as we age, we're closer than ever both spiritually and sexually because we've shared so much of life's ups and downs. I feel a peace and grace in my life and it's reflected sexually as well.
My only advice to success is to turn towards one another, not away, at all costs. It takes two. ;-)
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