kinky help plz!

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kinky help plz!
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 9:15pm
Hi... wondering if anyone out there can give me some ideas/ advice?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a almost half a year, and we live sort of far apart so we only get to see each other weekends... we have sex whenever we meet but my boyfriend is very kinky and wanted to try new things... problem is, I am totally NEW to the kinky world and I am stuck for ideas and need some advices...

My boyfriend wants to try food and stuff and I am worried about the safety of putting food in the vagina? also, he wants me to bite him (as in wounding his penis etc) but I am also unsure about having a 'wounded' penis for sex?

I thought maybe we could do some role-play to spice things up... but I am not so creative... any kinky role play ideas?

I also tried to give him oral sex... but he is abit larger than average so I have problems fitting it in my mouth... and the 'gag' reflex is not a turn-on... what I can do to stop the gag reflex??

Any other advice or ideas to be kinky... please share!

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Registered: 05-27-2004
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:50am
Almost a half year.....which translates to less than 6 months, probably more like 4 or 5 months. You live "sort of" far apart....so you only see each other week-ends. And it sounds like you're in over your head with this guy. You don't like the things he wants, but you want to be able to do them.....why? What does he do to please YOU?

If you don't want to bite him, then tell him so. If you don't want to gag, then tell him not to choke you with his penis. Definitely don't be putting food in your vagina, particularly sweet things.....as they can cause yeast infections. Are you aware that there are two of you in this situation, and that he has the right to ask for anything he wants, but you have the right to refuse anything you want to refuse.

It sounds like you're bending over backwards to do what he wants....even though you don't want to do it. It's time to speak up.....and tell him that you don't like these things. If he cares about you.....he'll accept that. If he gets mad and leaves......then he didn't care about YOU, he cared about what you could do to service him, and he's no loss.

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Registered: 05-20-2004
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:39pm
Role plays are always fun! Set it up for your boyfriend and tell him to meet you in a singles bar. If you tell him to meet you at 9:00, get there around 8:15 dressed to kill in whatever he likes you dressed in be it short skirt and heels, or whatever.

Start attracting some attention from these guys so that when your man walks in, he can see that you are highly desirable. The great thing for his ego will be that you walk away from all the other men to be with him. Have a few drinks and take him out to his car. As you start kissing him, etc. give him some dirty talk on all the propositions you received in the bar before he got there (real propositions, or imagined). You can tell him that guys wanted you to go down on them, or that they loved your long legs and wondered how those stilettos would feel wrapped around their ass. You will be rubbing your boyfriend's crotch while you are telling him all this. Then, unzip his pants and give him oral sex. If he's sitting up in his car, his penis will not extend as far as it would in the comfort of your bedroom and that should help with the gag reflex.

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Registered: 05-18-2004
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 1:04pm
>>Start attracting some attention from these guys so that when your man walks in, he can see that you are highly desirable. The great thing for his ego will be that you walk away from all the other men to be with him.<<

>>You can tell him that guys wanted you to go down on them, or that they loved your long legs and wondered how those stilettos would feel wrapped around their ass.<<

My DH would HATE that lol. If the situation were reversed, I would too.

Leticia

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Registered: 04-13-2004
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 1:07pm
We use whip cream type of desserts, but we don't put them inside - usually just smear them around the outside areas. I guess a little might get inside, but I've never had any problems with infections or anything. We also jump in the shower soon after and use the

shower massage on me. As for biting his penis, maybe just little gentle love bites, gently running your teeth up and down his shaft. Some men like this. (My man doesn't, but I guess everyone is different). Rent a porn flick and watch what the girls do to the guys, like how they play with the penis. Most of those guys are well super well endowed so you can see how those girls handle it!

As far as role playing, ask him what he'd like you to do for him. Let him tell you what his fantasy is and then do it. Let him come up with the ideas! Once you get started, you will have your own ideas that pop into your head.

Good luck and have fun.




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Registered: 05-03-2004
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 3:09pm
I also agree that you DEFINITELY should refuse to do anything that you will later regret. However, like others said, you can use your teeth when you give him head and that way there will be a little extra friction.

For the gag reflex thing, make sure you start out with a lot of teasing so that you can get him closer to orgasm before you even try to put it in your mouth. what i mean by this is to rub his penis on your lips and maybe nipples if that's possible, or between your breasts. lightly lick the tip of his penis, first slowly and lightly, and increase in speed and pressure, and use your tongue to go around the tip and up and down the shaft w/o actually puttin git in your mouth! then, when he gets closer, start with your full mouth but also use your hand to cover the lower part of the penis that you can't get in your mouth. use your hand and mouth together in a smooth motion and that should help so you don't get gagged.

hope this was ok to post!

sandra

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Registered: 05-20-2004
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 6:59pm
Role playing is not for everyone...lots of people get turned on by it!

Tex

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Registered: 05-18-2004
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 7:48pm
I wasn't referring to role playing, I was referring to you involving other people in the role playing. I never said anyone had to agree with me, just voicing my opinion just as you have.

Leticia