nylons/tights fetish question!!!!

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nylons/tights fetish question!!!!
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 9:47pm
My boyfriend was using my roommate's computer last night when we were both gone and today she looked at the history to see what websites had been previously viewed and saw that he had been looking up things such as "stockings" "leg warmers" "tights" "pantyhose" etc and had been to sights dedicated to these fetishes/fixations. The sights are simply pictures of womens' legs with pantyhose on and things of that nature but I don't know what to think about this. We've been together for about six months, have a great sex life, and he has never mentioned any of this to me but I am a little concerned and exteremely surprised by all of this. I don't know if I should bring this up to him (maybe its just an innocent secret fixation and bringing it up could embarrass him???) or just keep quiet and not worry about it unless he brings it up. What if this turns out to be a full blown fetish? Does anyone have any advice or experience with this? I don't know what to think or do about it!

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 9:51am
A disclaimer first, I really get turned on when my partner wears stockings. I love the look, the meaning, and the feel of stockings. Nylons and legwarmers leave me cold though! ;-)

Ok, what if it IS a full-blown fetish? What do you anticipate this means ?

A fetish by defintion means that he is probably incapable of peforming during sex wtihout specific stimuli - in this case stockings/nylons etc. If you have a good sex life so far that hasn't involved these things then it is not a fetish in the true meaning of the word.

Funnily enough, stockings and nylons were invented to make the female leg look more smooth and sexy. The very nature of leg coverings like stockings is to make women's legs look more sexually attractive. There are plenty of websites dedicated to those interested in the hardcore fetish - but if he was simply interested in those things his internet searches would have brought these hardcore sites up.

I think that all it means is that he likes legs and he really likes legs that have some sort of covering on them. Why? Who knows? But it's harmless enough. I think that it probably is >>"an innocent secret fixation and bringing it up could embarrass him"<<.

Then again, he might be happy to talk about it to you if you mention the subject in the right way.

Have you ever worn stockings for him? Try it. Get yourself some stay-up stockings and find an excuse to wear them one night. Guarantee that he won't leave you alone all night.




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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 10:34am
You said that you enjoy a "great sex life" so it's obvious that this fantasy isn't necessary for him to be able to enjoy sex, why worry about it? And if it was a full blown fetish, he would have probably brought it up by now.

Personally, I don't think a stocking fetish is much to be concerned about since it's easy to accomodate and indulge if you choose to. And I think most of us have little "turnons" that we keep to ourselves. Think about it, it could be MUCH worse. LOL!


Edited 6/4/2004 3:49 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:27am
How to reverse it? Hmmmmm....for some women it's when a man wears a tight shirt to accentuate his upper body or tight pants on a well endowed man ;-). It's merely a dressing to accentuate a sexual attribute. Stockings are an extremely feminine article, so it's very normal that he'd be turned on by them, just as some women would be a man in a tight shirt or pants. Only difference for me is that I'd be more turned on without the shirt and pants. ;-)