Sex W/out a condom... im worried

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Registered: 06-06-2004
Sex W/out a condom... im worried
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Sun, 06-06-2004 - 4:42am
I'm a guy, and I am curious if I should be worried about having sex with my girlfriend for the first time without a condom. We have had sex before but we used condoms, she just got on the pill. So should I be worried about stds? Plz help
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 9:34am

You both should have been tested before having sex without a condom, but since it's too late, I would suggest both of you get tested now.


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 9:37am
Not only should you worry about STD's....but about pregnancy. You say she "just" got on the pill, but are you aware that it's not effective for the first month? It takes a full month of use to stop ovulation.

The "pill" doesn't protect against STD's.....and if she's been sexually active in the past without a condom, or in some diseases, even WITH a condom.......there's always a risk, unless she's been tested and found negative.

Of course, she's taking the same risk, if you've been sexually active in the past, too.

If you feel mature enough to be sexually active, then you should really educate yourself about all the risks BEFORE taking those risks. It's too late to worry about it AFTER you've done it.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 6:13pm

"You say she "just" got on the pill, but are you aware that it's not effective for the first month? It takes a full month of use to stop ovulation."


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Registered: 05-14-2004
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 11:00pm
You know how hard it is to remember to take a pill every day? Well if she forgets to take the pill, she becomes WAY more fertile than if she never took the pill at all so forgetting to take it is a recipe for pregnancy. Also, you are leaving all choice as to if and when you are going to have a baby in her hands. She could mess up man, or trick you with a baby as happens many times.

To be safe, use condoms that you bring each and every time. They not only protect form most diseases but also the "dreaded disease of pregnancy"! Which is the one that costs the most in the long run! Since each child costs $165,000.00 of your money to raise to age 17. (according to the latest USDA website)

Good luck! I would not touch her unless YOU are protected with condoms.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:41am

"Well if she forgets to take the pill, she becomes WAY more fertile than if she never took the pill at all so forgetting to take it is a recipe for pregnancy."


Could you define "way more fertile"?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 8:26pm
Marry is right, you either are fertile or you aren't. The pill prevents ovulation, but when you stop it, ovulation returns. There's no such thing as 'more fertile', that's like being a little bit pregnant, lol.

Besides, if he's concerned about pregnancy, HE should be wearing a condom. It's pretty hard to 'trick' a man into fatherhood if he's not taking BC responsibility for himself.

Tally33


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Registered: 12-14-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 10:30pm
If you're going to decide to have sex, you need to educate yourself. Only condoms protect you from STDs. Even the pill isn't 100% so if you do not want her to get pregnant at all, use double protection. It's a little too late to worry about STDs after you had sex 3 times, once without a condom, so I'd say get tested, and with every new partner, get tested FIRST and WEAR CONDOMS!