Fantasy???...

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Fantasy???...
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 3:45pm
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Edited 6/9/2004 7:39 am ET ET by travel3789

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Registered: 05-14-2004
In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 3:57pm
Fantasies are called fantasies for a reason. We cannot help what we think and therefore, fantasies are rarely seen as perverted. I mean, hey, it could happen. I am sure that there are plently of other people out there that would love to share this type of fantasy with you. And I think it is perfectly safe to do as long as you don't exchange too personal of information without knowing just as much about the other party. Good luck if you ever decide to act out this fantasy!
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In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 4:35pm
Seems to me that a whole industry was born out of this same desire, wasn't it? I personally don't think it's perverted but it sounds as if you want to build a pseudo-relationship online more than anything. Sounds like a pretty standard fantasy to me.

I do have to disagree with the poster above on one issue though. I think we CAN and do control what we think when we need to. It's obviously not healthy to entertain incestuous thoughts about family members or sexual thoughts about children and so most of us refrain from allowing any kind of inappropriate thought pattern, along those lines, from developing.

So, we're in control of our mind, and the thoughts we allow to linger there, as much as we CHOOSE to be.




Edited 6/8/2004 4:40 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 4:38pm
That sounds very tame to me. Do it! Maybe after that, you could meet each other and be naked? That sounds like it would be more fun!
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In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 4:40pm
this sounds less like sharing a fantasy than a solicitation. this isn't the place for that.
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In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 4:46pm
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Edited 6/9/2004 7:39 am ET ET by travel3789
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In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 4:56pm
Ok, I guess I was a little too broad about the whole not being able to help what we think statement. I agree with what you said, but initially, I think we cannot control our thoughts. Once we get a grasp of them, then we can. It's just like your actions, if you don't think before you act, the consequences can be horrible. If you continutally let your thoughts wander without and guidance, it will get you into trouble as well. JMO...
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In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 5:16pm
Oh yes, anything out of the norm posted here gets a lot of prudish and "can't talk about that" replies, lol. Best to keep the real juice over on Taboo and some of the other sex boards. This one is pretty clinical.
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In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 5:22pm
I agree. All kinds of horrible and disturbing thoughts "pop" into your mind without provocation, we've all experienced that, but it's what you do with them once they're there that matters.


Edited 6/8/2004 5:24 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 10-09-2003
In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 5:40pm
Tiana, perhaps you can enlighten me. What is it that one is allowed say on the taboo board that you can't say here? I would think that both boards would have to adhere to TOS, which puts them BOTH on equal playing ground, am I not correct?
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In reply to: travel3789
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 5:52pm
People can speak about their sex lives and experiences without being judged, ridiculed and the rest of it. You know what I'm talking about.

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