can't find my gspot!
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can't find my gspot!
| Wed, 06-09-2004 - 12:09pm |
My boyfriend and I are getting really frustrated because we can't find my gspot. We've tried all the cool gspot vibrators and I'm a gymnast so we've done all the latest and greatest positions which are supposed to hit the "spot" but nothing works. Is there some way I don't have one. I can reach clitoral orgasm just fine. Also, how is it that I can have an orgasm while doing stomach crunches? ANY words of wisdom - I'm getting really discouraged! Thanks!

MOST women discover their g-spot quite by accident and in the process of normal sexual play. Don't forget what sex is supposed to be about, fun, pleasure and sharing intimacy. Take the focus OFF this one aspect of sex and you'll probably figure it out like everyone else does, while you're having great sex.
One thing I know for sure, you can't FORCE your body to react the way you think it should. If you have a sensitive and responsive g-spot, it shouldn't take that much effort to find it.
Do you orgasm with clitoral stimulation? If so, then try continuing that through intercourse and you're more likely to orgasm.
And as far as the crunch question...if you're like me, I keep my legs together when I'm doing them so it could be that you are pressing your vulva between them and stimulating your clitoris. I've never orgasmed while doing them, but I know many women masturbate the same way.
Edited 6/9/2004 3:49 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
There are women who've never had an orgasm from any source....does that mean they should just stop having sex? Or does that mean they should be frustrated and discouraged? Of course not. It means they should concentrate on what's important....the amazing pleasure of being intimate, and having a loving relationship.
Your "g" spot is there....and someday, when you least expect it, you might find it. Until then, pay attention to what IS happening, not what's NOT happening...otherwise, you might just as well become celibate.
FYI, the "g" spot isn't a lump, or a bump, like your clitoris, or your nipples....it's just an "area" of the vagina....more or less directly behind your clitoris. Just as some women's nipples aren't very sensitive, maybe your "g" spot isn't very sensitive. So, the women with unsensitive nipples don't concentrate on that, they forego that for other pleasures. The same is true for the "g" spot. If you find it, wonderful. If not, concentrate on what you CAN do, and what DOES give you pleasure.
So I guess I will echo what others have said - first of all it's not the most important thing to sex. Also, there is still a chance you don't have one or that it does not produce strong sensations, enough to help you be aroused. I think it's a fun thing to try, but if you don't find it, don't think it's a terrible thing. There's lots of other stuff you can do.
Sandra
"The area of the clitoris is far larger than described in conventional anatomy texts and most sex guides. The external tip, or the glans, is really the tip of the iceberg --and if you know icebergs, they're like upside-down pyramids, and underestimating one can sink your ship. The glans begins at one of end of the shaft and continues under the surface to where the other end connects to the suspensory ligament at the pubic mound. The shaft, like the glans, is very sensitive and responds pleasurably to stimulation. At the shaft'sconnection to the suspensory ligament, the clitoris spans out underneath the vulva alongside the vaginal opening in a wishbone shape (insert> beneath urethral sponge), forming two legs, or crura, whose underground real estate goes all the way back forty of the perineum."
~Krissy