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friends with benefits
| Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:56pm |
I was just wondering what everyone here thought about having a "friend with benefits". I had always thought of it as a bad thing, and somewhat skanky I guess, untill now. I have been casually sleeping with a guy. The thing that makes my situation somewhat unique I guess is that this guy is my ex-boyfriend, and he's the only guy I've ever slept with. We are not back together, we have just been sleeping together.
Has anyone here had an experience with a friends with benefits situation? I guess my major concern is that I will get hurt (eventhough I have talked about that with him). Sex is strongly tied to emotion, at least for me. Yet, we seem to be having a really good time together, and we enjoy each other's company. I certainly don't want our current "relationship" to end. However, I sometimes wonder what would happen if I got asked out by another guy, would I have to end the "benefits" relationship with my ex? I'm not quite sure how this works.
Any experiences or advice are appreaciated. Let me know how any of you have dealt with a casual relationship like this... Thanks!

You're worried about what will happen if you find someone else? How is that going to happen, if you're still all wrapped up in your ex, hoping for more, hoping to keep up a "relationship" that has already ended.
What you REALLY need to worry about is what happens when HE finds someone new! What you have now is what you had before you broke up, only he's free to look around, and do his thing with whomever he wants to. And, since he doesn't want to be with you, (except for sex) he WILL find someone new, and you'll be devastated.
You two broke up, and it's time for you to accept that and get on with your life. "Ex" means it's over, and whether or not you give him sex, he wants it to be over. Let him find someone else to have sex with, and YOU get on with your life.
jacki
let me know how it goes
Jenn