Need a bit of help....

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Need a bit of help....
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Fri, 06-11-2004 - 2:12pm
okay...I need a bit of help! I am going to visit my boyfriend next weekend and we havent seen each other in almost a month so I want it to be really fun and lots of good sex! However, when we have sex I dont usually have an orgasm when he is inside of me. Its not a big deal to either of us, and we don't strive to both come at the same time, but if anyone has any tips or tricks that would help me out that would be so great! I just want this weekend to be incredibley special!

thanks

Jenn

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 4:39pm
Jenn,

I have the same problem some times. I don't often orgasim while my DH is inside me. One of our problems has been that after we have sex he's always sleepy and sometimes can't stay awake long enough to help me finish. We've worked it out so that when I'm not getting as aroused as I need to be to orgasim while he's inside me I have him help me orgasim by other means first. Sometimes he will use his hands, or tongue. Sometimes we use my vibrator. Whatever works for you. This works out pretty well for us for a couple of reasons.

1. It helps me to relax me and makes our intercourse better.

2. It helps me to make me more ready for him to enter me. (In other words, we don't have to use lube.)

3. Sometimes I will have more than one orgasim when we do it this way.

Just a suggestion!

Patience

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 1:05am
I would think that just the fact you haven't been together for a month would make it special without ANY extra effort!

For you and for Patience.....it's perfectly NORMAL not to have orgasms from intercourse...most women don't. If you want orgasms during intercourse, then you or he needs to stimulate your clitoris at the same time. Your clitoris is your true sexual organ.....where all the nerve endings are. There is little or no feeling inside your vagina! Those women who do have orgasms from intercourse alone, are having them on an emotional basis, NOT a physical one.

Try woman on top, which will stimulate your clitoris while you move against him, and with any luck, if you do it right, you might get some "g" spot action, too.

Mutual orgasms are rare, and when it does happen, it's usually after years of knowing each other's rhythms and timing. For most of us, it's "ladies first"....because if you let him go first, he'll be too tired to continue.

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Registered: 06-06-2004
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 9:51am
Thank you so much for all of your input! It makes me feel so much better to know that its not just me...I always felt kind of bad that I didn't orgasm with him. Now I feel much better.


luv'n'kisses

Jenn

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Registered: 05-14-2003
Mon, 06-14-2004 - 12:49am
I thought it was necessary to mention a correction. There are many nerve-endings at the entrance of the vagina that are sensitive to many different types of stimuli. Also, I think it should be known that even the cervix has nerve endings and stimulating the cervix with pressure (not too much) can be stimulating for some women too. But for the most part greentea's advice was fairly accurate. I just thought I needed to clarify a few of her comments.

~Krissy

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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 6:25pm
Yes, at the vestibule of the vagina, but not inside. And I think most women realize, sooner or later, that the cervix is very sensitive....and painful when hit during intercourse!