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Cheating question
| Fri, 06-11-2004 - 2:36pm |
I've been lurking around here a little and see that you are all pretty honest, so I was wondering...Of those of you who are married (or serious relationship), what constitutes "cheating" in your book?
I would NEVER actually do anything physical with another man, but I find myself flirting and getting really turned on by attention from other men.
I've been married now for 7 years and I have 2 kids. My husband is a homebody who is very quiet. I am a talker and miss contact with adults! The little rush I get from flirting makes my relationship with my husband even hotter as I carry my fantasies over to him. I would never tell him this, of course, it would hurt his feelings.
Where does it cross the line for you?

What if someone told your DH that you were flirting? Would you stop or continue doing it?
And would it bother YOU if you knew he was doing the same thing?
My DH and I agree that flirting innocently with strangers is harmless but in the workplace or with people we both know, it's off limits.
I know you play with fire when you are not very careful. I would never go off with single women because I know how they would be acting, and let's face it, a few drinks and no husband around can make for trouble.
If my husband was flirting at work, I wouldn't be bothered. I would be surprised! Women flirt with him all the time and several come to him with "problems" and advice. I know it pumps him up, and to think that other women pay attention to him makes me proud that he's mine. I'm never jealous.
If he got a blow job from a hooker, I'd be pissed. But I can see where you are coming from...If my husband were having a loving relationship with someone else, that's cheating and unforgivable.
He would say that if I slept with another man it would be worse than having a flirty relationship.
If he were to get a BJ from a call girl - I know she isn't trying to get my man, she's just looking for money. (Not that he goes out and gets that - in fact, never since we've been married, but probably while we were only dating).