why aren't men&women's 'parts' compatibl

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why aren't men&women's 'parts' compatibl
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Sat, 06-12-2004 - 10:20am
I've always wondered this. Men & women's parts were supposed to be 'compatible' I thought, but women's main pleasure spot is their clitoris, and the penis can't touch it with normal sex, unless men go out of their way to do it. And, the 'g spot' is at the top of the vagina, but the penis goes straight in and not against the top (usually) It's a shame that us women have to do 'other things' to be able to orgasm and men don't have to. I think it would make the men feel so much better if they could make their women cum by just having sex with them. If we could have our orgasms this way, it probably wouldn't take us so LLLOOONNNGGG to do it!! Any thoughts on this??
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Registered: 04-23-2004
The only thoughts I have on it is, I'm glad it's the way it is.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
What's wrong with LOOOOONGGG???? As Tish said, it's not only the end of the trip that's wonderful, it's the LONG journey getting there! Who wants 2 minute sex?

As for the men's feelings....it's the same idea....it's NOT the orgasm she has, but the pleasure he can give her on the way there. A really good lover isn't as concerned with her orgasms as he is with her pleasure! He enjoys the amount of time it takes her to get there, and if she's as good at it as he is......then she'll get there over and over and over, as long as he cares to continue.

I think men's and women's parts are just great the way they are!

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Registered: 05-14-2004
I agree with the other posters but let me add. Sometimes, the parts ARE totally compatable!

I have had a few lovers in my life. One lover in particular, our parts matched perfectly. Of course I was thinner then and he was a perfect weight. He could AIM right for my clitorus while inside and grind on it making me orgasm. He could delay his own orgasm to match with mine. This was a perfect fit.

But the other guys it was harder(no pun) to fit...

So different people will fit differently. Part of the fun is trying to get the parts to fit! Like a puzzle. If you are turned on enough by good foreplay, you will find it easier to make the parts fit better!

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Registered: 04-21-2003
I have no trouble having an orgasm during intercourse. You have to use your body and move it the right way to lead him to the spot.

I'm orgasm best on top. He hits it just right and I can also rub my clitoris on his pelvic bone and get double the pleasure. It's all in how you move and know your body. It took me a long time to realize this. But I now know what's good and how to get it.

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My DH enjoys making love as much as I do and making love to US is kissing, caressing, fondling and stimulating ALL our hot spots, not just our genitals. But his erection fits perfectly into my vagina, as it's supposed to.

However, there are TWO sexes so why insist on approaching sex with a strictly male perspective? Who says that the male way of orgasming, primarily through penetration and thrusting should be the BEST way for us too?

IF we both were able to orgasm quickly just from genital contact, then the incentive to take the time to make love wouldn't be there and we both enjoy that so much more than quickies. Quickies serve a purpose but they don't foster much intimacy between us. It's better than nothing but not by much.

Teach your partner how you need to be touched, talked to, etc. and you'll become more responsive and faster to orgasm.

I think God knew what he was doing when he designed us as he did. It encourages us to slow down and appreciate ALL the differences between us.

BTW, I don't take "so LOOOOOOONNNNNGGGGG" to get there because I learned what I needed and showed my DH....just as he showed ME what he needs.




Edited 6/12/2004 6:23 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Nature planned it that way for a reason! If the clitoris - sensitive as it is - was in the vaginal canal, it would be in the way during childbirth. Imagine that most sensitive part being a part of delivery (yikes!) So that a woman's sexual pleasure wasn't damaged by childbirth, nature designed it so that it was well out of the way. It's actually a *good* design!
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